A young lady looking for ADVICE!!

blinds23

hello you guys

I need some much needed advice! I don't have anyone I can really talk to about sex and being a young cancer patient. I'm 24 now but I found out when I was 22 (12/2013). Started chemo (03/2014) my period stopped (05/2014). I would have hot flashes and light white discharge. So I don't know if I was still ovulating or what? I finished chemo (09/2014) and had surgery (10/2014). Still no period! I started target therapy (herceptin) on (11/2014) until July/2015 for every three weeks the hot flashes stopped just no period and light white discharge I just finished radiation last week. I had unprotected sexual relations on Jan 2nd and I've been cramping for the last two weeks straight with headaches and more than normal tiredness. Does this mean my period is coming back or should I be worried? Any advice is helpful

MusicLover

First off, I want to say that I am so sorry that you had to deal with this cancer at such a young age.  I have daughter a little younger then yourself and I would not be happy about hearing that she had unprotected sexual relations.  You need to go see a doctor if you are worried about these symptoms that you are having and to verify what is going on.  I do not want to preach to you but even if you "know" your partner, I urge you to be safe and take precautions in the future.   

wrenn

Blinds23, I am so sorry you have been diagnosed at such a young age. It really isn't fair. It isn't fair that you are having to worry about all the other effects either. I can't imagine having to deal with that at such a young age. I hope you have an understanding (non judgmental) family doctor you can talk to who can give you some advice regarding the things you are feeling now. Lectures are really not helpful for something that has already taken place and could do harm if it forces you to deal with this on your own because of fear of being judged. It might set your mind at ease.

I also hope there is someone you can find to talk to about what you have been forced to deal with. Maybe your doctor can recommend a counsellor. My daughter is 28 and I can't imagine that she would hold up well with all this.

Take care of yourself. I wish you well.

MusicLover

I hope that my post does not come off as lecturing you, if so, I apologize and want to let you know that I just feel that you don't need to be dealing with anymore then the cancer and anything that goes along with it (SE's and such).  Best wishes to you.

friends1

I think you should talk to your oncologist and tell her your concerns, she can do a pregnancy test and test your estrogen levels to see if you are fertile.

I think you should get birth control just in case this happens again.

I hope everything works out for you, let us know what happens.