Does the anxiety ever get better?

emg86

My mom was diagnosed with cancer in mid September. Today we found out she will most likely be starting chemo next week. I had mentally prepared myself for it to begin in December, so I was shocked when the nurse said that she would probably begin as soon as insurance was approved--she's set to get her port done this Friday. I've spent the last few weeks researching and reading all I can on the type of bc she has. I have been SO anxious about her first treatment and now that I know it's right around the corner, I just want to throw up and wish I could wake up from this terrible nightmare. My mom is my best friend. I have two little babies at home, one born just a couple of days before her lumpectomy and my 18 month old daughter who loves my mom more than anything. I wish I could take her place in all of this. I wish it would just go away. I'm trying to stay strong in front of her and cry my eyes out when I'm in the car alone or at night while I lay in bed running a million scenarios in my head. I feel so alone and can't even begin to imagine how my mom feels. Does the anxiety/fear ever get better? I feel like I'm going to explode from the anxiety.

Holeinone

em86,

Sorry that your mom has been dx. It is very stressful. I hated seeing how my cancer effected my adult kids.

The anxiety does ease......VERY slowly. When I was sick with chemo, I took on the mantra of just getting through this day. Hopefully she will be one of those that breeze through chemo. Some ladies post that they were not very sick, mainly tired. I was weak & sick, but I survived aggressive tx, and so will your Mom.

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Dear emg86, sorry to hear of your struggles with mom diagnosis and anxiety... If this helps, there is a section in our main site called Ask The Expert Conferences where you can read others questions and specialists answers on taking care of your loved one and yourself during and after breast cancer treatment. Here: Partners, Loved Ones, Caregivers: Taking Care of You.

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Ktsmiles

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My mom has stage 4 breast cancer and it had spread to her brain 2x now. I also have a little baby, she is 6 months old. I wish my mom would be there for my baby too...cancer sucks so, so much. I also wonder if the anxiety will get better. It helps me knowing there are others going through this and makes me feel less alone. My best to you