My mother thinks I should be "fine" now!!

tangandchris

I'm starting this thread because I didn't want to bog down the threads I frequent with this issue. I'm also hoping someone might have some experience or insight on how to deal with this.

My mother and I have had a difficult relationship for as long as I can remember. She is extremely needy and narcisistic, it's ALL about her. She suffers from PTSD, but I believe she has some other issues as well..but none of her issues are being treated with medication. She NEEDS to be medicated imo.

Okay so about a month before my dx last year I sent her an email telling her that I couldn't take her negativity, her drama about the past and I just didn't know how or what she needed from me anymore. When I found out about my dx I called her and we talked...things seemed to be better.

She has had her moments of being supportive through out this last year and I truly appreciate it. However, there has always been a feeling underneath that my sickness has caused her great pain and everyone should recoginize how hard it is for her as my mother to have this going on. I feel like she has milked my sickness with people she knows to get sympathy and support....even financial support.

Now that I'm past active tx she seems to think that I am okay and we can go back to things being all about her again. I will get a phone call from her that will last an hour of her going on and on about her problems....and at the end she says so how are you?

I'm frustrated an angry about this. I'm still struggling with my cancer dx, I'm doing better, but I still have stuff I'm dealing with. Is it too much for me to expect her to not beat me over the head with her stuff?

sorry so long...just needed to vent a little and see if anyone has dealt with people like this. thx