Hello. 32 years old and diagnosed yesterday

Coblndie

Hello. 32 years old and diagnosed yesterday

Coblndie

Hi there! I'm 32 and married with a 7 year old son. I was diagnosed yesterday with Intraductal Carcinoma I believe is what he said. I have a 1.38 cm mass right near my nipple. The US showed no signs of it in my lymph nodes. I'm meeting with the surgeon on Wednesday. I am feeling very scared, and whenever I think of my son I get very emotional. My father died of cancer in 1997 and my grandmother died of breastcancer as well. I haven't had good experiences with it, but know I can't compare those situations to mine.  I'm very scared of dying and leaving my son alone. So i guess thats it. Thanks in advance.

belleb

Hi and welcome! I was 35 (and a mom of two) when diagnosed last year and your post brings back so many of the feelings from those crazy few weeks while we ironed out all the details. This is a great site with great support. I wish you well on the journey no one ever signs up for!

Moderators

Hello Coblndie, and welcome to breastcancer.org. We're sorry to hear about what you're going through, but very glad you've found this supportive community.

We understand this is an overwhelming time. You may want to check out our page on Your Diagnosis for some helpful information. You'll also receive a lot of support on our Forums. You might want to look at our Young with Breast Cancer Forum.

Please keep us posted as to how you are doing.

Warmest regards,

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Anonymous

Welcome (although this is a place we would all rather not be). Hearing "The C word" applied to oneself can be overwhelming.  In addition, over the next few weeks you'll be slammed with a lot of information, all of which will be important in deciding on your treatment. So I'm glad you found us here. It's a place to rant or cry, ask questions or research, ask for a shoulder or lend your own, and receive support but no judgment. You'll find lots of younger women on this board, many with children, all sharing the same fears and hopes. I feel younger women might be diagnosed more today simply because of our increasingly capable methods in discovering cancer.  I was a single Mom when I was diagnosed; my daughter was age 13 (?) and had no father and no grandparents.  She was all I thought about; never my own situation--only how it related to her.  She's now 22, a college graduate, heading off to France to teach English...and I'm 9.5 years NED. 

So we wish you all the best, and please continue to come here and keep everyone updated on your journey.  

Coblndie

thank you both what now and belleb. I have had a rough morning....my mind has gone to the dark place. Where we sit now and what I know things seem like we can kick this right out. I can't go farther than that I know but it's hard. Hearing your stories gives me hope ... I just can't imagine not being around for my son....

CassieCat

Hi Coblndie,

I am about ten years older than you, and have a 14-year-old daughter.  I was diagnosed on the 19th of last month.  It is absolutely a scary, scary time!  Be strong, and don't go to those dark places.  I know, easier said than done!  But stay positive.  For me, once I had a plan in place I started feeling better because we were doing something and not just being hit from all sides with bad news.

Keep posting.  I've already found these messages boards to be a great source of comfort and inspiration.

mdg

So sorry you find yourself here....it's no fun to be in our club.  My son was 4 when I was diagnosed and now he is 8.  It is very scary to go through all of this and the beginning is the hardest part because there is so much unknown.  As you get details and a treatment plan, it somehow becomes a little easier.  I am so very sorry you have to go through this too!  Hugs!

Coblndie

today is a new day and I feel a little better. I have this and now I need to deal with it. I'm NJ to going to die and I really need to stop worrying about that. Wed can't come soon enough 

Sunflowercat

Welcome CobIndie and I'm sorry you're joining the club.  I'm a bit older than you at 39 and was dx in July.  Like you all I could think of were my kids (3, 5 & 8).  I was a mess!  I got an Rx for Xanax and I cannot tell you how much it helped me to keep it together in front of my kiddos and in public situations.  Oh and to help me sleep!  Do not hesitate or feel bad if you need something to help you cope until you have a plan of action.  There is no shame in that, many women here have and we all understand what you're going through.  Also, like some others have mentioned...you will feel better when you have a plan of action.  The waiting and unknown is the worst part.  Go do something fun with your son today! 

Oh and it's nice to see someone else on the western slope here.  I'm in the four corners area, but my hubby travels to GJ almost every week for work.  Good luck on Wednesday!

CassieCat

I also got a prescription for something for anxiety (ativan) and while I don't take it during the day, it really helps me get some decent sleep.  Let us know how it goes Wednesday.