Introduction - Harry's mom

incognitomom

Hi all,

I have been reading the forums for about an hour now and I am so glad this resource is here. Just got diagnosed today and will call the surgeon's office tomorrow. I am still processing everything and I have too many questions. My son is turning one at the end of the month and I remember last year's forums and and doctors visits were much happier.

Although those women on the bump boards are vicious. 

lindacam

Sorry to hear that.  Keep us posted on how you are doing?

Linds

linzer

Harry's mom - yes, it is so much easier (for most anyway) to look back at the time BEFORE breast cancer and then there's the new normal AFTER... One year birthdays are the best - sorry that you have this hanging over you like a cloud. You seem very calm for just being dx'd which is a good thing. That's not to say you won't have ups and downs. I sure did. I was dx'd mid-May and it seems like a lifetime ago. So much has happened since that day. Once you get a plan in place with an oncology team, you will hopefully feel a bit more in control. Take care of yourself, ask lots of questions (here and the doctor) and don't be afraid to ask others for help. I've learned that. I was where you are a short 8 weeks ago. I feel like a pro now You'll get your sea legs and do what you need to do. Hugs to you!

Meadow

Hello Harrysmom, so sorry you are going throught this. I hope you find a wealth of information and comfort here on these threads. There are boards for each kind of breast cancer, have you seen them? Also as you start treatment you should be able to find one with others starting chemo or having surgery at the same time. I joined the "starting chemo in Sept 2013" and it was so good to meet others starting at the same time. If there isnt one started yet you can be the first!

Stay positive, it helps so much. I believe the mind leads the body in recovery so much.   Meadow

mdg

Sorry you are joining us.....my son was 4 when I was diagnosed over three years ago.  It is definitely hard to do this with young kids, but you will get through it!  Yes - those bump boards are crazy!!!  I haven't thought about that for several years now!  Ha!  I assure you we are much nicer around here:)

Kudra

I'm sorry you have to be here but glad you found this resource. It has offered me comfort and knowledge.

One thing I think is very important is to remember you are in charge. I don't know your diagnosis but if you feel uncomfortable with anything it's perfectly ok to say you need time to think about it. Take your time, take a deep breath.

I hope you come back and tell us how you're doing!

Much love,

Rebecca

Anonymous

harrysmom, welcome to BCO. Sorry for the reason you have to be here. You'll get a lot of support from some wonderful ladies.

Not sure what a bump board is, but it doesn't sound too good.

Best wishes to you throughout your treatment!

Moderators

Hi Harrysmom, your very welcome to the boards. We're really sorry to hear that you've just been diagnosed and hope that you get the support you need here. The ladies are amazing!

If you have any questions for us feel free to PM us.

Kindest thoughts, from the Mods

incognitomom

Everyone, Thanks for the words of support and encouragement. It was a good realization for me that I can influence my treatment and not just blindly follow a set path.

BTW, the bump is a site for pregnant women that also has forums broken out by expected birth month, pregnant with twins, etc. but with all the hormones going on there are more angry posts than informative ones :-)

Meadow

Harrysmom, the moderators here do not tolerate any kind of snippyness or catfights, they know so well we all have so much to deal with that any kind of fighting or negativity is so detrimental. If you ever encounter it here, involve the moderators and let them deal with it! I love our moderators, they keep this site a wonderful place.