Mom has small cancerous tumor in breast.

seduced-by-the-stars

Hi, i'm Diana

i'm 14. My mom was recently told that she has a little cancer tumor/cyst in her right boob.(The doctors are planning on removing the cyst next friday, the 23rd.) My mom is extremely stressed at the moment although she always tells me shes just really busy, not stressed. When she was told this news she took as if it was a business matter. she said "Just take it out so that I can go back to work.". I'm not saying she doesn't care, she does, but she is taking it as if it were something small. I want her to know that she needs to calm down, take it slow, but she's just like snap snap busy busy that's all she is. How can I tell her to take it slow and realize that this is a real problem?

SelenaWolf

Sweetie, I'm sure that she DOES realize that this is a real problem.  Perhaps keeping busy is her way of coping with the news that she has a cancerous lump.  Everyone copes with this news differently, and there isn't any right- or wrong way to do it.  The best that you can do is tell her that you love her, that you will be there for her throughout this, and that - if she'd like to talk - then you'd like to listen.  It may be that she's not ready to talk about it yet, and that's okay too.  Not everyone can talk about how they feel at the best of times, let alone after finding out that you have cancer (however little).  Just let her know that she's important to you; that's all you can do.