After surgery and budding new relationship

Hi fellow single sisters out there!

I am 4 weeks out of a UMX and facing the fear of letting the guy I've been dating for 5 months(got to know him 2 days prior to my diagnose) to see my body. He's been supportive during my saga and constantly reminds me I am attractive regardless. We've been inimate once(my idea 2wks post op) but I had to wear a bra and lacy top. We've been talking about getting back to our pre surgery routine but my concern was how do I get used to the idea of exposing myself naked in front of him without feeling selfconcious. I had no problem before as I was pretty confident about my body image albeit being small breasted. Now I have scars on my breast, my back, and my reconstructed breast looks and feels off. Needless to say I don't even like to look at myself in the mirror. Any suggestions? The emotional and sexual connection is so important in my recovery journey I believe. It gives me all the reason to get up and groom myself like I used to. I feel depressed if he finds me unattractive once he sees me with scars and all that. And I also rationalize if he does not find me attractive again, then he is not the guy for me. Any suggestions and advice? I have been single for the past 7 years and this is the only serious relationship I ever got into since. 

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