Husband turned cold

Luckylee

Hi! This is my first post. Another first was yesterday's stereotactic biopsy of right breast, 2 areas of concern. One is a 7 mm nodule and the other is an architectural distortion which they've been monitoring for a few years. I have dense tissue and am used to being called back for another mammo with an ultrasound but this was the first I heard biopsy. And I froze. Panic set in. Hubby and I were already having a tense time over money issues. But I called him right away and broke down. Not like me at all. It scared him and he was somewhat reassuring. I chose the surgeon who did my mom's lumpectomy. Hubby came along, he knew I was scared and this was only the consultation. The dr didn't have my full report but was able to explain the procedure and admitted that yes it could be cancer. But it could also not be. He then examined my breast. During all this time my husband sat there and said not a word. Typical but it didn't upset me. When the dr left, hubby made a comment about the dr ignoring him. I shrugged it off. The next day he said he didn't like him and wants me to see a female dr. His main reason is the disrespect he showed him and that he didn't have my report and he failed to wear gloves when examining me. Gloves? This is irrational thinking on his part. I reminded him this is about me. Not him. I trusted this dr with my mom and I feel the same for me. I agreed he should've had my report and yes he should've said hello. To you. But he spoke to me. Maybe his bedside manners are not the best. Hubby agreed with me to have him do the biopsy since it was scheduled but then find a different dr. I guess he didn't mean what he said. The silent distant treatment set in. He refused to go in with me for the biopsy. Dropped me and drove off. Texted me nasty things about the dr enjoying his time with me or was it the other way around? Mean. The biopsy was the worst but hubby's attitude was unbearable. He picked me up. We came home and argued for an hour. He talked to me like I had cheated on him. Said ugly things. Took no care as to the pain I was in or the worry I have. Instead he said the damage is done and maybe we should end things. He will never be able to remove the image in his head of my enjoyment having this dr check me. ???? So yeah. Biopsy. Pain. Scare. And husband accusing me of cheating because the dr examined my breast. I know this is his own insecurity but this is a time I really need him and he bails. He refused to even check my bandages. Has anyone else dealt with something similar?