dating after mastectomy

ashell

Hey everyone!  I've been so MIA here, getting back into normal routines and such.  When I was going through my diagnosis and surgeries, I was with someone very supportive who I thought was going to stick around for the long haul.  Unfortunately it didn't last, and now that I've had a little time to get over it I'm thinking about possibly dating again.  My exchange surgery is in a month and a half (YAY!), but after I'm all recovered from that I can see myself getting out there and meeting people again.

I guess I'm just wondering, how does one go about bringing up the fact that they had a mastectomy?  It doesn't have to be just to a significant other or romantic interest, but anyone you meet after going through this.  I know it's a "do it when it feels right" kind of thing, but.. I dunno.  I have no problem talking about it, even with people I've just met, but I never bring it up to new people unless I have a specific reason to mention it.  I can just see it going like - Him: tell me about yourself.  Me: well I only have one real breast... haha.  awkward much?

lilithmoon

ashell - I'm dealing with the same issue.  My BF couldn't handle my Mx and took off shortly thereafter.  I'm starting to get interested in guys again but feel much like my body is in limbo.  I'm waiting for a revision next month and don't really want to show my slightly deformed breast to any potential love interest.  I'm usually pretty straightforward so I would probably get it out of the way.  So far, guys don't seem to care, I think we worry more than they do.  The hard thing is also talking about the cancer.  I just figure if they can't handle it, too bad!  Take care.