Thinking about pregnancy...anyone else? Confused?? HELP??

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I am so confused right now. I really would love to have another child. I am 38 and I had a son (now 20yrs old) when I was 17yrs old.  I always wanted to wait until I was married before I had baby #2.

Nov.10, 2008 I was wed to a loving man who has no children. We started to try to have children a year later but now it’s been 3 years with 7 miscarriages to show for it.

Last August 2012, I was diagnosed with stage IV, grade 3, PR-/ER+/HER2 Neu+ Breast Cancer.  It was discovered with a tumor growing on my spine first! I had the tumor removed and replaced with a metal rod half of my spine. I have since had chemo/radiation for the tumor and going through chemo for the breast cancer now.  I have two more rounds of Herceptin/Taxol then I am finished with that.  The next step is to remove the cancer in my right breast then go through more radiation on the breast.

I have tried to research data on my situation but found that there is not much data regarding if it’s safe to consider on having children or not.  I have read some stories on here regarding ladies finding out after their children were born they have breast  cancer and their stories just makes me want to try but I am so scared that the cancer will return. 

Is there anyone out there who had tried or stop taking treatment have a family?

Is there anyone out there had their cancer returned?

What questions are best to ask my oncologist?

I know in the end the decision is up to me and my husband to move forward on having children or not but at present its so tiring and very frustrating that the research out there is just not enough to make this decision easy.

Thank you for stopping in and sharing your thoughts...I am very greatful for this.