Lumpectomy Lounge....let's talk!

HappyHammer

Peggy being in one's pocket....gets me every time...had a good little cry over that....such a special thing to know that someone else is in your corner/pocket. Love that others have chimed in on that so that those in need have lots of peeps in their pockets!!!

Brit- love ALL of the looks but 2 and 3 are my faves!

Sandy- hope everything is back to normal now...what a way to end such a cool restaurant experience....yuck.

HappyHammer

Jersey....YOU WILL ROCK THIS!!!

Sloan15

Chisandy - They just had The Girl and the Goat featured on the cooking channel. They took the audience through 10+ different dishes using the entire goat. Yum! It looked delicious!

Melclarity - Oncotest, not oncotype. Sorry, typo... I think Peggy is right though, if you are doing chemo, there's no need to do the test since it is a guide on whether or not to do chemo! Glad you are doing chemo for grade 3 on that spot. I'd want to make extra sure, too!

Brightsocks - mine was bigger, too, when they actually took it out and measured it vs the MRI.

Peggy - haha, I think we might need to add the "mine was bigger" phrase to our 50 Shades of BC book!

Octogirl - I posted it already, but I'll post the pic of Molly and me again. It's worth posting again!

Molly --we walked out the door and into The Broad! It's contemporary and modern art, and with my ULTRA SHORT HAIRCUT, I fit right in! Haha! Seriously, I went from cancer patient to chic!

Octogirl - next time, you're meeting with us!

PontiacPeggy

Brithael, I currently have a fall. Not terrific and I'm not sure it matches my current hair color. I'll have to drag it out and see. Also to see if it looks halfway decent when worn. I also have a curled piece that is on a hairband so you can wind it around a ponytail or bun. Not sure if it is the right color now. I've been using a slightly darker (very slight) blonde hair color than when I got those 2 things.

HUGS!

Jclc83

Is that a peep in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?

So which one of us is winning the Powerball?

PontiacPeggy

HappyHammer, I know how much it meant to me when I had my surgery to have my friends here in my pocket. So I figure it will help others.

JcLc, you don't need to bother checking your tickets. I have the winner.

HUGS!

Melclarity

Sloan - I love that CHIC!!!!! exactly how Im going to approach it. Yeah, I had no choice with Chemo, but Oncologist said that it was the Grade 3 that determined Chemo or not, nothing else. Yay!! am 4 weeks PFC LOL getting stronger everyday...soooo want my hair now Sloan!!! I'll be going for CHIC too!!!

Sloan15

Well, when I win PowerBall, I'll fly you all out for a reunion! Or, Maybe we'll take the reunion to Melclarity in Australia!

JerseyRenee01

Thank you so much HappyHammer!!!!!

Melclarity

Sloan - I love it!!!! hahaha! You know after my dx in 2011 I actually traveled to the States 4 times in like 3 years. 3 times to visit a GF I have in LA and once I did with my kids, a 3 week trip, to LA the works there, trip of a lifetime and a regrouping for us after me getting through BC 2011. 2010 I went to San Fran and NY. I love America, sooo much to see yet, dying to get to Canada!!! LOL bucket list??

HappyHammer

Well, friends...y'all are certainly getting things together for our 50 Shades of BC...

Is that a peep in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?

I think we might need to add the "mine was bigger" phrase

Trying to emulate Sloan and the chic short....tried to take a selfie to show y'all my "hair" but nothing looked as good as hers so....may need to wait a 1/2 or so...

that's what she said...

HappyHammer

Do NOT ever want to turn anyone off of our thread...just am glad we are able to address the "whole person/relationship"....think humor is the best way to delve into uncomfortable territory..anyway..again...so glad that this group is able to be serious/humorous/ etc/etc/

HUGS TO YOU ALL!!

HappyHammer

If ANY of us win the lottery...PLEASE plan a union of the peeps on this thread in some really, really lovely place....preferably with blue skies, white sand and a BIG A$$ house to share so we can have our own rooms but places to gather and talk or not but to be together. HUGS all around.

PontiacPeggy

HappyHammer, I promise that I will hold the reunion when I win. I can't think of anything more fun!

It never occurred to me anyone would be offended by our frank discussion of sexuality. We are all women, most of us have or have had sexual relationships, and BC does effect how we feel about our bodies and sexuality. Dr Susan Love's Breast Book discusses it also very frankly.

HUGS!

Sloan15

HappyHammer - I am still very self conscious, but shape your hair and wear big earings! Big earings are tres chic!

Melclarity

Sense of Humour is EVERYTHING!!! We all have so much to deal with, and yes there are terribly hard moments. I like that we can share all of it, the ups, the downs, and the FUNNY!

Pontiacpeggy you are right...BC encompasses everything, and certainly how we see ourselves our bodies etc., I admit, having a new patner of over a year is so very different to having been with my husband who I knew for 15yrs. I think I did feel more insecure after surgery and my body etc., the intimacy. For him, it was never an issue, in those raw moments through Chemo where I felt I didnt recognize myself in the mirror anymore, completely stripped bare of everything I used to be...he helped me see I am still the same person inspite of those things. This has given me an opportunity to empower and redefine myself.

LovesToFly

Sloan I think your hair looks great. With my chic cut and multiple piercings I can pull it off (I think I look like a lesbian...and my led in friend was the first one to say that I'd fit right in with her crowd now!). Not so sure about bald though! Luckily get my job nobody will care what I do, I'm not working with clients right now and I am surrounded by social workers after all!

Everyone is actually telling me they like my hair more like this than long, I know they're trying to be nice, but I hope that's not true…but I always like to look my best but I actually love my curls!

I'm glad we can all talk openly about everything here. I think it's important, and it never occurred to me that it would turn off somebody, I really don't think it would. As Peggy says we are all women, and most of us have or have had sexual relationships.

HappyHammer

Peggy....yes, I agree...and Mel- we are our bodies- ourselves....so glad this thread is able to openly discuss it ALL- thank you for that. I LOVE the fact that we are of all ages and yet....we are all of whatever is happening and are willing to reach out, to listen, to be in the pocket....gotta love it!

HappyHammer

Sloan....got some big earrings....prob need to wait a week or two to "shape" the hair.

PontiacPeggy

Melclarity, I can't imagine how difficult it was for you in a new relationship and having BC rear its head again. Then to cope with chemo, which has to be even more challenging. You found your diamond. I'm sure his strong support has made everything a little less stressful. He's a very secure man.

HUGS!

Melclarity

Happy Hammer - I love that too...we all come here of different ages, backgrounds and stories..but one thing we share is an amazing connectedness through this journey and an incredible understanding of each others trials and a compassion like no other for each other. Thats pretty special!

Melclarity

Pontiacpeggy - I did find my Diamond and I feel incredibly blessed...I've seen life differently since meeting him, I think as he's from the Cook Islands and he is such a simplistic man, maybe because of culture, but I think too through having an incredibly hard life himself. He grounds me like no other its wonderful!. My BC has never worried him at all, silly me gave him the chance to leave and he screwed up his face in disbelief LOL..said he didnt go out with me for my Boobs haha!!! though theyre wonderful he said. Aaaah! am laughing now..

octogirl

Sloan! And Molly! Great pic: don't know how I missed it when you posted before....glad you had a sunny LA day and you both look great, and yes, the short hair definitely is chic. And yes, next time I will meet up with you!

I guess I'd better buy a Powerball ticket (is it too late?) so I can take you all to Australia with me!

Hugs

Octogirl

HappyHammer

Mel....our connections ARE pretty special for sure....I have some fabulous friends, a wonderful sister and mom, and very fab hubby....but very recently, you gals are who I share my thoughts and worries...I listen to what yall say and then go to them....you all understand the mindset, the worry, the YAY's....and, I am profoundly thankful to have found you!

PontiacPeggy

Melclarity, it appears that right now we range in age from 26 to 70 (that's me). That sure covers a lot of territory, experiences, problems and issues. I know nothing about Cook Islanders - are they that different? Obviously your man is very special.

HappyHammer, that IS what makes this group great....we all "get it." We don't have to explain like we would with someone who was lucky enough to avoid BC. But we are blessed with wonderful, supportive friends we have found because of breast cancer. Thank heavens!

What a reunion we will have on our lottery money!

HUGS!

Sloan15

Does anyone take vit C? I don't want to megadose, but I don't think I get enough C and an wondering how much is safe for BC patients to take. I can't take a multivitamin, so I have to take separately B (for chemo neuropathy) and a calcium/D combo recommended by my gyn for menopausal women.

Melclarity

Pontiacpeggy - LOL Cook Islands are in the Pacific Ocean, he's a native. He's been in OZ about 10yrs, lifes just simplistic to him, doesnt get pulled down with alot of things, not the way I used to anyway.

Happy Hammer - Im the same, I dont really have friends I can discuss all of this with, so its been so great for me.

Sloan - Not sure about the Vit C, I take Vit D though.

LovesToFly

Sloan I don't know either. I take a multi and b12 (both approved my MO and pharmacist). I used to take extra vitamin C, but only when I had a cold My oncologist told me it is not good to take extra vitamin C during chemo, but you're done, right?

Shamisen

I've been on Vit D for about a year. Unrelated to my breast cancer tx tho'. Sure makes me feel better!

Melclarity

Shamisen - When I finished Chemo, my Vit D level was 29, its meant to be 75, this was new to me, I knew nothing about it...my Nurse then says that all BC patients have low Vit D levels, that there is a link. I never heard that before, I did look it up and it was documented I was surprised and of course through chemo they dont recommend taking any supplements, which of course makes sense. So minute I finished I was put on Vit D, 3 times a day, now down to 2 a day for a month then it will be one a day. They will check my levels in March, I agree with you, I actually feel better with it. Odd huh?