How do I help my Mom?

Kristen-Smith85

My Mom was just recently diagnosed with IDC. She get's her port put in tomorrow and starts chemo (TAC) on Monday, the 14th. My dad is fighting lymphoma right now for the second time, preparing for a bone marrow transplant, and will also be in chemo. He has been through this before so we know what to expect from him but not my Mom.I have read all the side effects about TAC but I am not sure what differences to expect between my Dad (a man), and my mother. What will she need comfort wise during and after chemo and what will she need from daughters emotionally and physically? i would really appreciate some advice on how to support her through this.

Thanks, K.

chrissyb

Hi Kristen and welcome. I'm so sorry that your mom has gotten this diagnosis especially as at this time your dad is in need of support. Chemo is chemo whether it is administered to a man or a woman the SEs are the same. As far as emotionally and physically is concerned, just let your mom know that you can be relied upon should she need you to do any shopping, cleaning etc.........the cooking thing may not be needed in great quantity but finding the things that she fancies so she will eat may be necessary. Just be there and be yourself and try to keep things as normal as possible and don't forget to tell her you love her.



Love n hugs. Chrissy

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Kristen, as well as the great advice you've received from Chrissy, there is a very helpful section pinned to the top of the Chemotherapy - Before, During and After forum called Important Chemotherapy Threads for Newbies that has tips for getting through chemo and wig advice, among other topics.

Best wishes to your parents, and to you. Your support through their treatment must be such a comfort to them!

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Kristen-Smith85

Thanks. The threads for newbies were helpful. And I know the treatments cause the same side effects for men and women but for some reason, I think this might affect my mother differently in regards to her emotions and mental strength. She is not a weak person at all but with the hair loss and not being able to help my Dad might take it's toll on her. Any advice there?

chrissyb

Kristen, the hair loss is always an issue with any of us but we try to make it a bit better by getting a good wig or two and lots of pretty scarves and caps. As far as the emotional side of things it's a good idea that your mom see a councillor that deals with specifically with cancer patients. Check with the hospital that your mom attends and see what services they can offer. You could also check with the breast nurse and see what they recommend as far as services go.



Hope this help a little.



Love n hugs. Chrissy