Who's Waiting for Test Results Week Beginning Monday January 7?

Homebody

Well, it seems that a lot of us are waiting for test results this week, particularly on Wednesday! Mine are for my mum, who has just been diagnosed Stage IV from a cancer of 13 years ago. We know it's in the spine and pelvis, and these tests will show whether it's in any organs, and elsewhere in the skeleton. I love her so much; she is one of life's angels and she doesn't deserve to be going through this.

So anyway, I thought if this week's "waiters" were gathered in one place, it would be easier to support each other than checking so many different threads.

How is everybody coping? I'm trying not to get my hopes up and prepare for a bad result, while not thinking about it too much. I've decided I'm also not going to go crazy celebrating if it's good news either, because we are just at the start of my mum's inevitable journey, and I'm trying to minimize the rollercoaster. I won't let the cancer dictate my emotional state any more than is possible. That's what I tell myself, anyway. Other  coping methods: I have cleaned. It keeps me busy. Bathroom looks amazing. I have allowed myself to go out to dinner and have what I like to eat. I have minimized contact from people, who stress me out.

How is everybody else coping?

Homebody

I will not be signing in again to this website. Someone wrote some disgusting things on a thread and I complained. Instead of censoring this poster and the terrible things they said, the thread was simply moved to the Alternative section and I got ticked off like a 15-year-old.

The person talked about butchers and butchering over and over again, and when they started talking about dogs eating diseased body parts I had had enough. This is an appalling, disgusting way to torment cancer patients and constitues cyberabuse. I want no part of a website which condones such talk and have asked the moderators to delete my account, since they have not thought to include a button for that.

What a horrible experience. I thought this site was supposed to make our stress better, not worse. I want nothing more to do with it.

So I wish everyone luck on their journeys. Whatever happens, the chances are extremely high that we will live to fight another day.

Good night and God bless you all. xxx

GoldenGirls

Hi Homebody,

I am in the same boat as we are likely getting the results of my mom's bone biopsy today after a very long wait. It's been close to 7 weeks since we took her to the hospital for some shoulder pain and swelling and a CT scan found 3 suspicious bone lesions. She was orginally diagnosed with breast cancer over 11 years ago, so we thought she was in the clear. Since that CT scan she has had other tests and scans which haven't given any answers, so assuming that the samples they got from the bone biopsy are sufficient, we should finally know today as it's the first day the oncologist's office is open since before Christmas. The bone biopsy was done on Dec. 20 so we have been waiting anxiously for some time! It's been nerve-wracking, but now that were are close to getting the results I am scared out of my mind!

The holidays made the waiting a little more bearable as we busied ourselves with decorating, shopping, and watching a ridiculous amount of cheesy Christmas movies on TV. Now that the holidays are over, well, the coping hasn't been that easy and I have been spending waaaaaay too much time Googling to see if I can find some sort of hope that these lesions are anything but cancer.

Good luck with your mom's results! Keep us posted!

((Hugs))

GoldenGirls

My mom's bone biopsy was negative!! It still doesn't explain what caused the bone lesions and until we have a chance to speak to the oncologist in person on Thursday I'll still be a little on edge, but hearing that the bone biopsy showed no cancer was a very welcome and wonderful surprise -- especially after almost 2 months of believing it was cancer!

Sending good vibes your way!

xo