Retail Therapy

kaza

Since my dx i now treat myself to things, where as before i would think twice about spending money on myself. Do other ladies feel this way?

ab1234

Hello Kaza,

Well, even though I wasn't really "diagnosed" with breast cancer, I am recently finished with my pbmx, reconstruction, oopherectomy, and now surgical menopause due to my BRCA2 mutation and strong family history. However, since all of this occurred I have ABSOLUTELY been engaging in retail therapy! I don't know if it's more due to my hormones/menopause, or filling up my time/energy with something now that my Drs appts are minimal, or what? I am also dealing with some mild depression from all of this (taking an antidepressant), so my spending could be related to that, too?

Either way, your post made me feel a little better. So thank you! 

1Athena1

kaza,

Oh, yes indeed! About a week after my diagnosis I waltzed off and bought myself a $540 Ferragamo wallet. I remain unapologetic. Next to cancer surgery, retail therapy is the most effective of treatments. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

Scottiee1

Oh, I love this new thread.....retail therapy....bring it on.....when I finished rads I ran to the mall for my retail therapy, but surprise , surprise, I broke down in tears and went home!!!!!! 4 months later I'm doing a lot of retail therapy again.....such a good sign, means I'm on the mend💃



What are some of your favourite stores?



Athena, I did something similar BEFORE BC.....I bought a $600 Gucci wallet .....you can imagine my purchases AFTER BC......lol

Anonymous

I am extremely (!!!!!!!) practical. Two days after my diagnosis I stopped at DSW for absolutely no reason and bought a ridiculously high hot pink pair of heels. (NOT because of pinktober....just because pink was completely not practical.) I'm going to wear them when my reconstruction is all done to celebrate. Meanwhile I have been known to sit in the recliner in my pj's with them on.



I intend to land on my feet after all of this....and why not do it in fabulous shoes????

Scottiee1

Dulcigirl...love your attitude and would love to see those pink shoes, I'm sure they are fabulous. I'm afraid my days of the heels are over for me......Birkenstocks all the way.....lol

1Athena1

Good for you, Dulciegirl!

New-girl

I am not a jewery person.  But since my diagnosis I crave beautiful jewery.  I look at it and want it.  I read where Ray Romano bought his wife a gorgeous necklace when she was recovery from breast cancer.  No way my hubby would do that so I just dream of buying some gorgeous piece and wearing it.  A friend of mine got a new very shiny Lexus and calls it her cancer car.  I am hoping at some point to get a gorgeous set of pearls and wear them in honor of my journey this year.

kaza

How many handbags can a girl have!!!!!!   while having annual mammo Monday last, all i could think about was a fab kipling bag, saw in local store, black loads of zips and a cute little black furry monkey key fob attatched to it, well got the bag love love love it!!!!! i plan to have a collection all colours all with cute furry monkeys on them. the plan is one kipling bag plus monkey key fob after every mammo!!!!!     keep it coming girls, heals, bags, forgot to mention marks and spencers chocolates were also in the bag!!!xxx

  

Scottiee1

Ladies, I'm probably the oldest here at 65 but in my head I'm 35💃 I went to Marshall's

last weekend and bought a pair of Hush Puppy boots, dark red suede, up to my knees

and a pair of dark purple jeans and a cute faux fur vest. My friend said all I need now is the love beads....lol....My DH doesn't know what to make of me these days, since BC

my clothes are getting funkier and funkier. I'm open to suggestions from you younger ones, keep in mind, the funkier the better.....lol

kaza

scottiee love the sound of those boots,purple jeans aswell all sounds lovely, bet you look a million dollars in them, just love suede perhaps you now need a handbag to match!!!   

CelineFlower

oh god thank you for letting me live vicariously thru you ladies!

i could NEVER  afford such things... but

i still use retail therapy

i find myself buying the foods... i... like...

i go to walmart and buy sqoooshy socks... 

i fill my world with purple

and make no excuse lol

great thread...

holidays are here... you know what that means

kaza

celineFlowe        Purple is one of my favorite colours- i also buy my favorite foods now, they dont have to be expensive, chocolate has to be top of the list!!!! enjoy shopping for your hols, keep us posted on what you buyx  

Scottiee1

Thanks Kaza.....a new bag....hmmmmm....love how your mind works.....lol

fredntan

Am adding this to my favs.



Going to knockoff tiffany sale

Cindyl

I've been thinking I should have a friend change my Amazon password. I've spent so much there in the last 9 months... Maybe I'm not losing my mind after all.

Scottiee1

Fredntan.......Knockoff Taffany....??????

1Athena1

I had the same question, scottiee!

Scottiee1

Celine.....I bought a pair of dark purple pants.....actually get lots of compliments and they only cost $30 at Marshall's......go for it....lol

Jomama2

I bought a $400 Vitamix blender (I'm blaming it on being heavily medicated at the time) and a Cuisenart Griddler, and a Tignanello (sp) handbag.  I'd wanted all for a long time and decided, if not now, when?  So much for my plan to get out of debt! Next purchase will be black leather boots (and a burping, farting interactive dinosaur for my grandson).

Scottiee1

OMG.....I also must have been heavily medicated because I bought a Vitamix too.....love it!!!

pj12

What is it about shopping that is absolutely soothing? If i am stressed a walk through the mall is better than Xanax. I don't necessarily have to buy anything, although I feel much more successful as a "hunter-gatherer" if I find a great bargain. My DH cannot understand it at all.



Dulcigirl, you are not alone! I bought a very impractical pair of cream leather with a fur cuff very high heel ankle boots. Not what one usually wears in Florida! So late one afternoon, when I had slipped into my shorty pajamas, I put on the boots just to see if I could actually walk in them. No one ever comes down the side of our house where there is a big picture window, consequently the blinds are never closed. The lights were on creating a real fishbowl effect and suddenly here was the UPS man looking for a place to leave a package. I have avoided eye contact with him ever since. . But I do love those boots.



Favorite stores? Loving all the extra discounts at Macy's this time of year. TJMaxx is great for bargains on cookware. Yes, I get excited about pots and pans and dishes too.

Can't get too enthused over online shopping. Not touchy-feely enough, I guess.



Biggest battle this time of year? Trying to shop for loved ones for Christmas and constantly finding things for myself!

Blessings2011

Jomama2 - my $400 Vitamix blender was the absolute best investment I ever made! I use it several times a day and I love it!



Almost as much as I love my new sexy bras and NYDJ (Not Your Daughter's Jeans) that I just got at Nordstrom's .



However, in terms of enjoyment, my farting dinosaur brought pleasure to many .

1Athena1

I just love the lack of guilt I feel at some of my shopping. No Xanax does it quite like retail therapy. I especially like clothes. I abhor the idea of having a sense of entitlement - except when it comes to shopping after cancer. Another excuse in my mind if that since my chances of dying prematurely have gone up, I no longer have to worry about old age money. Also, if you are going to die, you want to die well dressed, damnit!  Make sure you have matching underwear.

kaza

1Athena1  just love it!  clothes are my weakness, matching undies love m and s undies make one feel so glam! x 

ltmguy

I was shopping fr my husband and read a blog where people shared deals that  they found anad liked when they were all in a group like this.  I was wondering with black friday has anyone fund great deals for gift givng Ideas things we may need or things for others,

susan3

today, a pair of boots, 3 hats, 2 boot toppers and lipstick...ahhhhh happy now

Scottiee1

Someone asked me recently what would I choose sex or retail therapy.......guess what my answer was ladies.......lol

kaza

Totally agree Scottiee1, my desire for sex has gone, but shopping has replaced it, love Amazon great for xmas prezzies....... any thoughts on that bag to match your lovely red suede bootsxxx

Scottiee1

Have a friend who wants to go to our new Marshall's just opened in Toronto sooooo

today is laundry day and a BIT of housework, but of course, I must reward myself

For my efforts so off to Marshall's tomorrow and maybe I'll find that bag to match the cool boots. My DH doesn't know what to make of me these days....lol

kaza

That sounds great... get the boring things out of the way today. Have a lovely time with your friend tomorrow...carnt wait to hear what you buy, x