I have never heard of this happening to anyone else

vicky3blum

I have a daughter who is mentally ill and believes i am faking breast cancer.  it hurts so much but i am able to remind myself she is sick.

well, recently two people where we live [ a nudist resort, so we see each others bodys and MY mastectomy scars all the time]. thought that i had spilled some of their deepest darkest secrets[which i had not] so they fought back by making up monstrous lies about me [and one truth, which i readily admitted to and i am not ashamed of.  i had tried to get a job here.  i had a partner and between us we had 30 years in the field experience.  someone else, with NO experience said that they would give the manager a bj for the job. she got the job.  i told the 2 people who are causing mr problems that i hoped that i did not lose the job because of that.  i confronted the manager, asked if that had happened, he said no, and i believed him . end of story.  that was the one accusation made  about me that was true. everything else was either straight lies or truths twwisted so horribly that they were even worse than lies.  anyway, if i sound hysterical it's because i am.  the rest of the lies were believed.  the manager told me that only a small fraction of the lies were acted on.  the accusaations were made both by letter and by phone.  the manager told me that not all of the accusations were even addressed, for instance, one accusation is that i am faking breast cancer.[ yes the guys know my daughter and that she does not believe i have breast cancer. the manger who received the complaint that i was lying about breast cancer said that that accusation was not even brought up at the meeying because "it didn't matter"] the other charges i was found guilty of. [mainly a lie that i was spreading lies about someone being a pedophile when i was the one actually defending him for YEARS from the many people who think he is one.  i now think he probably is one with all of the anonymoujs letters and phone calls i have received since then] anyway, in my one years probation i am not allowed to talk to anyone on the ranch about the charges made or any of the truth at all.  it has been a nightmare. even before my diagnosis we were in terrible financial shape because we spent several hundred thoussand dollars[ all we had, plus some] to try to find help for my son. we can afford to live nowhere else. hey, they're not even allowing the homesless to live under the bridges in denver anymore.

i am so devastated. i feel so betrayed. i am so afraid of being homeless and my son dying.I am so afraid that this will make the cancer worse and leave my son without a mother. 

yes, i have been going for counseling ALOT since this started a month or so ago.  i cannot stop crying.  i feel so alone and so afraid and so betrayed.i have never been this upset in my life.when i first called the counselor the first words out of my mouth were "I think i have breast cancer but maybe its a delussion.  I LIVE in a nudist resort folks. these things on my chest would never be confused with augmentation or real breasts. i don't even have nipples or aereo;as.  i feel so sad. please help me sisters.

CoolBreeze

I don't know what to say to you, except *hugs*

I always thought that people who lived in nudest colonies were beyond this kind of behavior but clearly, my thinking was wrong.

You are in an unhealthy sistuation and are very upset.  I would take it step at a time.  Start thinking how to extracate yourself from it, how to get back into normal society where everybody doesn't know you so well and these gossipy situations don't turn into big blow ups -  how to still help your son without breaking the bank, how to back off from your daughter, who also has mental issues.  That all may take some therapy.

Good wishes to you, I hope you can find some peace.

vicky3blum

Ann!

OMG! Thank you so much for responding.  you have no idea how much it means to me.  I read your blog all of the time and pray for you and your family every day. 

one thing i learned to do, many years ago, was to , whenever I had something "Majorly" major going on in my life was to figuratively pull out of my pocket the people i most aydmire and imagine what advise they would give me were we standing face to face. This has helped me through some tough times[particularly with my sons' illness]

My list is rather eclectic, including Ghandi, Mother Teresa of Calcutta, Paul Newman[ for living such an incredibly balanced life] my Grandpa, and Goldie Hawn [she knows the power of laughter]

Only in the past month have i added someone new to my list.  Ann, that was you.  I am incredulous that YOU were the one to respond to my anguished overwhelmnent yesterday.  I am honored and take it as a sign that whatever happens, somehhow, even if that only means that the world will continue to spin on its' axis, that everything WILL be alright.

Thank you so much. When you journey into the next life [whenever that may be.  i have no idea] I do not envy you the incredibly large group of people who you will have to wade through who are waiting to thank you for all of the hope, peace, love, and sometimes laughter you have given them.