"Friends may come & friends may go.....

JustJude

...and friends may peter out, you know. But we'll be friends thru thick & thin with peter out or peter in! PETER IN!"

This is an old toast that we used to do when in our 20's, and oh how it relates to what happens to friendships when YOU get a cancer diagnosis!

I'm getting a little of my hair back now. Starting to act more like NORMAL! I've been amazed at how stressed friendships become from this UGLY disease! Your friends that have BEEN THERE every step of the way, start to tire of the cancer stories. The friends that bailed on you and stayed away, are now reaching out & wanting to be close again.

I guess, long story short is this..........be patient & don't react. I'm hoping that we can ALL overcome the fears that this UGLY EPISODE allowed us to endure. I know that you're sorry that your friends start getting tired of the medical stuff. But, this is NOT gone away - at least not the FEELINGS of it! You cannot help how you feel. Having my best friend become silent or bolt away each time we're together & someone asks about my journey - IS KILLING ME! But, on the other hand SHE cannot help how SHE feels either!

You really do learn WHO your friends are and who are just passers by! Sad, but true.