Thanks, husband and worlds worst nurse

denjier

Wife is half way through her chemo following lumpectomy of stage 1A tumor and so far so good. ( isnt it strange- learning this whole cursed vocabulary) Found this message board useful for perspective. Heart breaks for others facing much more that us. Even so, being told your wife and mum of your kids has ANY survival probability lower than 100% is shattering. Didnt cope too well when she broke down afer cutting off all her hair instead of seeing it continue to come out in clumps. I am pissed at myself for being such a lousy care giver and just between us, Im hiding behind work. Thank God we were able to move her close to home and family. Good luck to you all.

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denjier

I don't think you are a bad caregiver, just afraid of losing your wife. She has BC but everyone who cares about her are also dealing with the unknown and scared. They have support groups for family members and caregivers.

It's not an easy path but using work for an excuse will only make it ok for a little while. You have to have this as a couple and be there for each other.

I know the hair issue is one of the hardest parts of this process and very shocking at first. Showing her and telling her she is still beautiful to you helps more than you can know. It's obvious you do because you took the time to post on here. It's going to be ok just keep loving her with all your heart and tell her how scared you are. She is your partner and shouldn't be any secretes especially now.

Good luck to you