Wife dies suddenly?????????

felly

Hello Ladies.....all through this time I've been reading your posts and have all helped  me in your own personal way...and I wanna thank you for that....I wouldn't be able to handle all this cancer thing without you.....

So,today I heard someone say that his wife died suddenly of breast cancer...she was diagnosed in 2010 had her treatments and she was fine..it was stage II.....  

He said that she looked really healthy and full of energy with no symptoms....any symptom at all...and suddenly died....

I freaked out......so much..I hate having negative thoughts but can't help it.... 

I'm so sorry for thiat post....I wouldn't want in any way to pass negative thoughts on anyone...but while I have it off my mind for a while..sth happens and I have to face with that fear again........ 

bak94

That is very upsetting to hear something like that. It could be anything. It can happen to those that do not have cancer also, and is a very scary thought. I am sorry that it has brought anxiety to you. Just remember that we are all different, and I suspect that her circumstance was very unusual. Hugs to you.

felly

Thank you so much......I really needed to hear this today.......thank you!

dreaming

  One can not die suddenly with BC, it could have been a hearth attack, en embolism, etc, cancer, even brain cancer that can not be treated takes some time.

My advise is not to listen to "somebody heard." I had a rule during my treatment: I would tell people"If they are bad news , do not tell me", many people are morbid , and at the beginning they all know bad stories.

Working in a cancer center I know plenty of patients that extended their lives for years , even at an advance stage.

During my treatments it was not that I was in denial, I gladly listen to members of my support group,I could trust them, specially because they were never negative no matter what .

TectonicShift

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soulswithin

Hello, I am back looking for info about reoccurence and came across your post. I do know one person whos cancer came back in the brain and she died quickly. It may have been treatments, no one really knows. It really upset me too.



It seems every day someone cant wait to share cancer news with me about all the horrible stuff their friend went through, etc... Drives me buggy, and i keep swearing that some day i am going to say to them that I really dont need to hear their negative stories at this time. Some idiots need to hear that.



Its been 3 years for me, and i dont think even 3 years lessens the worries. And i still feel different, and permantly changed. Often, i find myself intolerant of high maintenance friends and family.



Take care, and i hope you find some fun to distract you from your worries. I have to work hard at that.