My Fantasy

New-girl

I have now processed so much on this journey called breast cancer.  I have learned alot, grown some and seen the world through different lenses.  I hope I am not bitter but I just wanted to let yall know what I dream about while waiting in the doctor's offices....

I dream of just one man having cancer of the scrotum.  On the day of his surgery to remove the entire scrotum, having a "sentinel node" injection into the tip of his penis.  Only four small pricks.  Make sure to tell him that lots of men compare the shots to bee stings.  Tell him when sweat is pouring down his face when he sees the needle how lucky he is to have such a skilled surgeon.  While he is gripping your hand and gritting his teeth while the second needle is inserted, tell him that he was smart to ask for the preop medicine that the wonderful doctor prescribed....3mm of Xanax.  Be sure when he goes white from pain that he only has one more to go and that the throbbing pain from the first three is unusual and golly most people don't hurt that much.  When the procedure is over and he is wheeled to the preop room shaking and scared of losing his entire scrotum and the effect that will be on him, make sure you let him know that while this could have been down while he was sedated for surgery he wouldn't want to tie up the operating room for another 30 minutes would he?

After surgery when he has his newly constructed scrotum on, be sure and tell him again how lucky he is.  Let him know that his girlfriend, wife or significant other will love him just the same.  Be sure and tell him that the strange abnormal feeling and tightness will become his new normal.  Be ever so cheerful and let him know that he looks great in pants and nobody is looking at his crotch.  When he feels sad, be sure to again tell him how forturnate he is and how lucky he is the cancer is gone and wow he has a new perky scrotum. 

As the months pass and he adjusts to the new perky scrotum, make sure he doesn't dwell on it.  Encourage him to just move on and enjoy life.  When he longingly remembers his past sex life, be sure to remind again how lucky he is. 

I just wonder if just one man went through this, what would change in our collective experiences?  My guess, quite alot.