SO wants me to move back with him

nevertoolate

I'm Stage IV. Earlier this year, my onc told me to move out of my condo (which I own) to get away from stress.  Since my diagnosis, my SO has been have a lot of medical issues - all legitimate - which carried a burden on me.

 I moved out to a rental which I love because my SO told me he would buy my condo. Now, it looks like he may not be able to unless, he says, I move back in with him to share the expenses. Right now he's paying the monthly expenses to live there.

 I've tried to tell him that it would not be in my best interest to live with him in case I have the opportunity to go to a nursing home.  Apparently if you are living with someone, it is thought that you have a caregiver.  I know because my mother was sent to live home alone until she fell. 

This means SO would have to care for me in many personal ways including many doctor visits,  and he is not grasping the idea of what is involved when a cancer patient is very ill.  The condo is not accessible for a handicap person.  Either walk up to the third floor, or a very long walk to the elevator and walk down the hall to the apartment.

How can I explain to him that I don't want to be cared for at his home? I also need to sell the condo (as is, because it is in disrepair) if he doesn't buy it and he is reluctant to move.

Txgal748

Nevertolate,



You need to do what is in your best interest. If your SO is not going to be able to take care of you it would be best for you to continue living on your own and sale your condo, I'm sure your SO will be able to find another place to live. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but at this point you need to put yourself first. I pray you will come out of this in good health and be able to rebuild your life.