In shock

nihahi

benny....LOVE the wedding joke!!!! Hope the furnace gets sorted out...better now than on a weekend when it's -30!!! Sounds like your home is entering that "mature" stage, when everything starts to "go", one thing at a time....been there!!!!!

I'd LOVE a timmies date, sadly, I'll be confined to a classroom from 8:30 to 5:00 (Red Cross stuff).

oh come on now.....you don't really believe that's the reason your doc has suggested anti-depressants....I hope it was a bit of sarcastic humour....if not....I'M coming over to thump ya!!!!!

OK....I'm outta here for the day. CALL THE MECHANIC!!!!!! (your house will thank you).

liefie

Benny, that joke is soooo funny - hahahaaaa! Take that anti-depressant! 12 years ago I had to do that, after a year I came off it, and never since had any sign of depression again. Not even bc or other traumatic things in my life pushed me over that edge again. Trust me, it works.

Carla was such a vibrant, happy, beautiful woman. We can only hold her family in our thoughts and prayers, and live our lives. The 'why' question does not have an answer.

Weather here is beautiful today with sunshine, and only a few clouds. Going for a long walk now with the dog. He is defo becoming more arthrtitic now, and sometimes refuses to go up the stairs. He was always such a rambunctious, lively dog - the years catch up to all of us eventually. Make hay while the sun shines!

websister

Hi everyone

Nihahi - I guess I did go silent after the news of Carla. It did really shake me, I enjoyed so much messaging with her on Facebook, she was great to check in and encourage, funny how you can get so close to someone that you have never met in person.

Edi - thanks for sharing the information from her daughter and for the picture - she truly was beautiful.

Morwenna - have you got over your jet lag yet? Looks and sounds like a wonderful trip, so glad you were able to do that

Liefie - DS should be in possession of that temporary passport by today, not a moment too soon. So happy that you are able to go sooner and spend more time with your sisters and mother. I hope that you being there spurs some memory, that would be so nice for you both.

Momof2 - hope healing is continuing well for you, hope you have been able to get back to your sewing a little

Movie - love hearing from you

Dakota - you never stop Take good care of those children and yourself

Traii - hope you are busy and happy - the weather there should be getting summery?

Benny - my mechanic knows a thing or two about furnaces and plumbing - have you thought about calling the mechanic? Love your sense of humor

At work we just spent the week supporting an update of an application of software our team is responsible for, we are doing it one or two clinical areas at a time - should get easier but this was the first. I was 'command centre captain' which sounds impressive but I think it was their way of keeping me out of trouble I received and documented the issues, sometimes problem solved them myself, sometimes triaged to the appropriate person. I enjoyed it but I was glad to leave after the morning as it was tiring. Today we are ramping down the support and all seems well. You may be right, Nihani - maybe going back full time is not what I should be aiming for.

The genetic counsellor I saw has been in touch a couple of times since my appointment with more info on the syndrome she feels I have. It has also caused a lot of thinking - if I do have it I had an 85% lifetime chance of getting breast cancer, there are other cancers I will need to be screened regularly for and I need to seriously consider prophylactic mastectomy on my left side as I guess I have a 25 - 50% chance of a new cancer occurring on that side - with the changes they are watching it seems possible. I had almost made up my mind not to have reconstruction but now that this choice may be in front of me I may do it all at the same time.

Lots to think about.

Love you all! Take care everybody

momof2doxies

Well I have had an interesting day. The low dose BP med worked instantly, and the clonazapan took away my anxiety/high pulse. I went to the surgeon today for him to look at the beautiful job the PS did stitching me up..LOL I did say that if my oncotype comes back borderline, I should do the the chemo. Next I went out to a store that specializes in cancer wigs. The lady was very nice only a year younger than me and she looks fabulous. We have the exact same doctors. I tried on several wigs, all were longer than my hair. Gee I was looking like the Jenifer from the 1980's. Actually it was kinda fun. If I show up at my daughter's wedding with hair as long as hers, people are going to talk...actually not people only my SIL who I am not very fond of.

Benny, I looked up that med, but it is not approved for the USA. I have been on Prozac for years with no side effects. However, with this recent panic attack, I needed something more for anxiety. But you should read the reviews and not be afraid to try something. It is about Quality of life and prozac gives that to me. Yes, your home is reaching that "mature" age, sure would be nice to have re recommendation of a mechanic before being talked into a new system.

Liefie...I have asked Santa for that Nike thing you have been using. It would really be awesome for me to lose 10 lbs, have new implants, and a long hair wig for my daughter's wedding. Definitely something I never imagined in my wildest dreams. Sometimes people will comment on my weight lose and I just say thank you, BC has that effect. Then they look at me like...did she really say that? So what color is your MOG dress?

DH is home and the dogs want dinner, and I want some tea. So have a wonderful evening ladies. Oh, what a difference a day makes, I feel so much better.

Love to all,

Jenifer

caitlin61

Hi Ladies.

Benny, the furnace trouble must be catching. Got home last night and it was 61F inside, now down to 54F. Of course it has to happen when my DH went back to Kentucky for a couple of days. Anyway, somebody is coming out to look at it tomorrow, but all they can tell me is they'll be here between 8 and 5. Looks like I'll have to work from home. Have a couple of friends coming over tomorrow evening - it might be a chilly one!

Benny and Jenifer, I have been on antidepressants a couple of times, and they helped, at least initially. RO says he may recommend that I go on Effexor if side effects of Tamoxifen don't subside (night sweats and sleep disruption).

Websister, sorry to hear you are facing some difficult choices as a result of the genetic counseling. My experience of breast cancer so far is that there is never a dull moment - always something new on the horizon to consider.

My sister, in Canada, went through a genetic evaluation recently. Apparently she was assessed as having a 20% chance of developing breast cancer - but that is not considered sufficiently high to receive annual MRIs (she has recurrent cysts and was hoping to be eligible for screening beyond mammograms).

Was in training this week, which was somewhat of a distraction, but otherwise Carla's passing has been weighing heavily on my heart and mind.

liefie

Websister, I hope and pray that the testing proves you do not have that syndrome. You've been through so much already, and you need a break, really! Re: work - part time sounds like an excellent idea. You will have the energy for that, and will not feel 'inadequate' if you can't cope fulltime. Nothing wrong with that. As for recon, if you are considering DIEP flap, you will have to grow some serious tummy fat, sister! When I met you you did not have much fat anywhere - lol! Best wishes, and big hugs!

Fedex delivered DS' passport yesterday afternoon safe and sound - phew! Now he can relax - poor thing was so stressed out. He is leaving tomorrow night, and is so excited.

Jenifer, last year in July at my DD's wedding I was bald as a baby bird with neither eyebrows nor eyelashes. I had grown my hair for a long time because I wanted an elegant updo for the occasion, but then came bc, and chemo . . . God has a sense of humour, for sure. And you know what? I enjoyed the wedding just as much, and shared in my DD's joy, which was the important thing. Had a cute, sassy wig, make-up girl did an awesome job on my lashless, browless face, and I had a ball. You will too. So happy you''re feeling so much better!

Caitlin, good to hear from you! You are so right re: BC Always another curveball, and more decisions, eh?

All of a sudden I'm having hunger pangs. Still hours from dinner . . . will just make me a nice cup of coffee to ward off temptation, and tide me over - lol.

scouser47

Hi  love this face, this week I stood up forgetting my specs were on my lap, they shot forward and I promptly stood on them !! Lens shot out, the arms bent and Edi howled at the moon.
After a lot of huffing and puffing got lens back in and arms bent back a bit, still crooked so opticians on Monday.
Went to Docs, NO to anti depressants, felt like walking under a bus when I came out  Sending me to a counsellor, SHE will need help when I have vented lol.
No Bingo win, but saw Gravity in 3 D with Sandra Bullock and George ( yummy ) Clooney last night, it is an experience to say the least.
Nihahi,New oven superb, it is electric and so quick unlike the last one which took half an hour to pre heat.DH relieved to have normal uncremated food..
Benny, like you everything is going wrong, freezer now freezes everything into icebergs and food in fridge part, rock hard too.Hope your furnace is repairable, please please call the Mechanic we need happy news on here. Programme on TV about a lady who rescued 60 chickens from a battery farm. They now live in and around her posh bungalow in the country. One had a stroke and she nurses it in the crook of her arm. They all have their feathers back and look so content.

Liefie, enjoy that sunshine and walkies with your lovely doggie. Can't wait to see wedding photos. Bet you look like a Movie Star.

Websister, ((( HUGS ))) we were all knocked sideways this week ,but our Beautiful Warrior Sister wouldn't want us to be sad, she left such a wonderful legacy of love and that smile.Hope all goes well for you, don't work too hard.I too was shocked how the grief overwhelmed me even though we had never met.

Morwenna, hope you have recovered from your trip. We have our carol concert in about four weeks. Asked DH would he like to come, NO he says,( gutted ).

Caitlin, Hope your furnace doesn't pack in. Thinking of you. Pics on f/b sooo beautiful.

Movie, you ok ?

Mom, wigs can be so much fun !! I have a long one and the compliments I get make me walk on air. Told it takes twenty years off me ha ha. Have kept it even though hair now back.
As for the weight loss, when people say "wow how did you do that." "Try BC," always floors them. Think it brings out the devil in all of us LOL.Did you finish your wedding sewing too ?

Dakota, you take it easy and enjoy those gorgeous little ones.

Traii, you too, how's the business going ??

Programme on Kennedy assasination on TV can't believe it is 50 years.

Must dash X

 

Traii

well dropped DS off to kindy. Now making another coffee to give me enough energy to vacuum and wash the floor...ahhh I really do need a maid !!

Summer is around the corner. Should be spring here but honestly more like winter!

Going to book tickets to take DS to Santas Magical Kingdom. I do not know who is more excited! Brings out the 'big' kid in me that is foresure!

Not a day goes by without thinking if our gorgeous girl Carla Still get teared up. How can one go from messaging and making Halloween Pink pumpkins with her grandaughter to this! Its scary.

I know she would want us to move on and help find that cure but its just so damn depressing that this can happen to anyone. Damn bitch BC!

Ok coffee machine done.....now off to do some work (walking with head down!)

Enjoy your night ladies , hugs to all xx

Moviemaniac

hi all.....just popped in to say "hi". Am doing okay....will post again tomorrow......Advil PM FINALLY kicked in....... XO

momof2doxies

Edi....I am outraged that a doctor would dismiss your request for some help. Sending you to a counselor ....give that counselor hell. I think everyone on this board has been deeply affected by Carla's passing. When I went to see my GP I was crying and shaking. She was so empathetic in that she understood why I was feeling so distraught. Let the counselor read some of the stories on this board. And I hope you can find another doctor...meet me in Oregon, I will see that you get taken care of How is the oven? What delicious recipe have you tried?

So my 9 ft Christmas tree arrived at my door.... I just love to shop online! When I was in WalMart yesterday there was a sign that said 40 days till Christmas. So I had better get DH to get that tree up this weekend. It may take another 39 days for me to decorate.

the 2 wiener dogs are in my lap..coffee cup is empty. No doctor appts until Monday. Gee I think I will have some Jenifer time today!

Have a wonderful day ladies. Love to all,

Jeinfer

momof2doxies

Oh Edi before I forget, if you have your glasses prescription, go online to www.zennioptical.com. I get all of my prescription progressive bifocal glasses from them. They are really less expensive than anywhere in the states. Have always been completely satisfied.

Jenifer

nihahi

edi....I have put your doc on the "naughty" list!!! WTH???? Obviously this quack does realize you are in the "pooper" due to stress or "it" wouldn't have sent you to a counselor....hopefully the counselor has a brain, and goes after the doc to get you the med help. Can you turn things around for yourself with "just" counseling...likely....if your counselor is a good one, but it will certainly be harder, and take much longer. Ideal situation....meds while you need them...counseling for long term "tools". Man, I'm so pissed off I could just........!!!!!!!!!

Jenifer... a "Jen" day sounds perfect!!!!! Enjoy.....good lord, how tall is that tree?????

When I started this message, we had freezing rain...now turning to snow as I type....gonna be one of "those" days....guess who washed the car yesterday...c'mon...guess......yep !

scouser47

Hi  thanks Momof and Nihahi, glad someone gives a sxxt, he doesnt for sure. I trained as a counsellor many years ago and sure you are right about it taking ages. I ain't got ages !!
Getting lower every day. DH being awful. Bad back has been rested for four freaking weeks so far. That entails me running aroung like a headless chook.
Just been to supermarket he defo ain't coming next time. Face like a jar of worms pushing the trolley, tutting and huffing, asked him to go for a latte, NO so back to the home from hell we come. Rice pudding in the new oven, just like Mum used to make no doubt THAT will be wrong too.

Sorry to whinge girls, no one else to talk to.

Momof, Xmas tree sounds awesome, would love to come and help you decorate it. My favourite job every year.Enjoy YOUR time.

Nihahi, they reckon we are in for the worst winter for years here, dreading it.Yours sounds yuk too.

Will pop back later, XX

nihahi

just caught your post, edi, before rousting myself into action. I am so ready to thump your hubby.....good thing for him there is an ocean separating us. IMHO.....he's the one who should be going to counseling!!!!! Your life would be so much happier if HIS attitude changed. So I take it you haven't been to dancing in 4 weeks??? hmpf....It's not uncommon for retirement transitioning to be a challenge, but your hubby really takes the cake, again imho....won't even go to your Christmas concert??? WTF.....why ever not!!!!!!!! Is the ticket cost $10,000,000??? Or is it because the attention/enjoyment would be yours, and not his???

I'm so sorry sweetie, I hope you start the counseling ASAP, unload on this person EVERYTHING that has you down. There is a whole lot more than bc aftermath preventing your happiness. You were not put on this earth to serve, suffer and shutup. Sending you hugs, bigtime! ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((X))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

momof2doxies

I vote with Nihahi...I wrote an ad for my husband in a singles magazine.(1979-1980) I threw his letter in the trash at first, but then I got it out and read it again, and gave him a call...It has been 33 of absolute happiness. Shall I write an ad for anyone?

Never a dull moment...LOL

Jenifer

liefie

Jenifer, a 9 foot Xmas tree . . . I don't even have one 9 foot high ceiling in my house - lol. But it will be spectacular, no doubt. If there is to be a tree, a real one is the best. They smell good too.

Edi, too bad about DH . . . don't have much advice except to just do your own thing, and not be bothered with his 'permission' to do it. What? You are not a child who needs anybody's permission or approval, right? Years ago the kids and I decided that we were going to go camping, which DH hated, and never wanted to do. So we bought a tent, camp chairs, sleeping bags, mattresses, etc, the whole works one day without consulting DH at all. Came home, and told him we were going camping that weekend, and he was welcome to join us or stay home. Needless to say he came, enjoyed himself very much, and we went camping almost every weekend for the next few summers until the kids left home. I was not going to allow him to deny the kids the pleasures of camping just because he did not like it. It was just not fair. Maybe this story helps you in some way - I hope it does. May have told it before, so forgive me if I did.

DH thinks he has gallstones - has been having pain on and off over that area for a few weeks now. He's is getting an ultrasound this afternoon. The timing is impeccable . . . oh boy!

momof2doxies

Liefie..everything has to be on the large scale. DH is 6'7" so the living room and dining room are 14 ft. The rest of the house has to be >9ft or he will hit his head on the light fixtures and ceiling fans. After all these years I am just used to it . That is why I sew the drapes, bedspreads, bedskirts, etc. everything is on the extra long/tall side. But he has always been handy when ladies in the supermarket cannot reach something at the back of the top shelf....he just smiles and says " of course, I will be glad to."

Moviemaniac

Edi....sending you mad Yank (((Hugs))) from this side of the pond.......your DH needs a movie night: get a hold of "Educating Rita".....and ask him if he sees anything familiar in it..........

I had really severe PPD after the birth of my last DD, and was on Prozac and talk therapy for 5 years.......saved my a$$.....I am sure your counselor can arrange for meds....and at least in the short term, I think that they are a Godsend......lets SKype sometime this weekend, okay? And start saving your ha'pennies to come and visit.......you NEED a break from home! XO

Still so bummed out over Carla's very sudden passing.....it stinks, and yes, I know we could step off a curb and get hit by a bus, but this really HURTS.......

I had a very small rupture in my new abdominal sutures.....all very surface(y), I am sure, but must put a call into PS to be sure everything is okay, based on my tendency to blow open sutures.....not taking anything for granted!

Liefie, tell DH I hope his diagnosis is wrong, wrong, WRONG! Isn't timing everything????? Is dress ready?

Well, off to call PS........

Love you all!

scouser47

Thanks girls
Stupid me bought the tickets for concert already, it is for childrens cancer, so nothing lost.
Hopefully my two daughters and GD's will come plus my BC buddy, but not hanging by anything delicate waiting lol.
Defo because it isn't all about him.
He tells people when they ask, how much he is enjoying retirement by the way WTF !! Glad someone is.

He cooked dinner, 2nd time in a year. Fries and an egg sunny side up. Rice pud was lovely by the way.

if I had my time over I would NOT marry anyone. I would have a high paid career and have kids via donor and a turkey baster..

Be good and happy everyone X

liefie

Edi, gotta love your spunk! What is a turkey baster? LOL.

Dakota212

hi ladiez .... Lol

Had to jump in to say I also take Effexor. God knows I needed it with the cockroach but they doubled it when my hot flashes started. Cockroach is behaving somewhat. I stopped wearing my wedding rings have not seen the exterminator because I don't have the cash. He doesn't take the kids which is completely fibecwith my. Bless their hearts I want to hang out with them until I am not cool enough anymore then I will worry about a companion. Let me tell you I love watching what I want going to bed when I want, and doing the household stuff on my terms. I certainly don't need him to help me with anything anyway !!! Only one hockey game this weekend can't believe it !!! Hope all u gals have a fabulous weekend !!!! Hugs and of course muah !!!!

Dakota212

Here's my hockey player !!!

Morwenna

Oh Liefie! I'm sure you have turkey basters .... I bought one in Calgary anyway!

It's a rigid tube about 6-8 inches long with a rubber bulb at the non-pointy end, with which you can suck up the meat juices to squirt over the roast while it is cooking! ;p

And ..... ROFL...... spunk is what it would likely contain if one was bypassing the usual method of baby-making! Sorry guys, couldn't resist!

Moviemaniac

Liefie and Morwenna...you two are killing me......

Dakota.....Muah! to you, too! Cute pic of your son! Hockey gear and all!

Morwenna

Great photo Dakota, yes, being without a man certainly has pros as well as cons! xxx

nihahi

Oh lord, he's a GOALIE..... been there, did that for years....$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$. Great photo Dakota....Lord, you gals are sooo funny today.

liefie....really hope hubby can get through the upcoming adventure without pain....Wonderful timing!!! He's been in pain for weeks and NOW decides to get checked???

Giant hugs to EVERYBODY!!!!!!

Moviemaniac

Isn't there a saying....."Physician, heal thyself"??????

adagio

Oh my goodness - I just arrived back home, and catching up with news and learned about Carla - this is so shocking and so depressing!! How can this be? I need some time to process this kind of "news"!! May Carla rest in peace free from pain - my thoughts and prayers are with her family during this very difficult time.

liefie

I have now laughed till I cried - the only turkey baster that I know is yours truly with a big old spoon - would not work for Edi . . . LOLOLOL! Thanks for the explanation, Morwenna! Never owned one, honest. This is too funny . . .hahahaaa!

Dakota, you have clearly turned the corner - way to go, girl! Your little boy is too adorable. Have been looking through photos the whole morning to send to DS' future MIL who is making a slideshow for the wedding. Childhood photos of DS so cute, and I can't believe he is 26 years old. They grow up in a flash way too fast!!!!

DH's ultrasound shows no gallstones, and no sludge in the gallbladder. Now what? Where does the pain come from? He does not sound worried, but I don't like this one bit. Nihahi, I hear you re: pain. He's had three episodes now in the last few weeks, not a constant thing.

Welcome home, Adagio!

nihahi

liefie.....what else was hubby doing lately besides chasing you around the kitchen island???? Could he have somehow.......never mind.....I should stay away from the keyboard this afternoon.