Staying Strong

stoneriver27

Two weeks ago, my mother told me that she found a lump in her right breast. My first reaction was pure shock. She is an extremely active and happy woman, who has a healthy diet, and who does pilates twice a week. She is also one of the most important people in my life and I can't imagine anything bad ever happening to her. She made an appointment, and reassured me that anything was going to be alright and that it was probably nothing.

Everything seemed to return to normal until yesterday, when the doctor called to confirm that she has Invasive Lobular Carcinoma. Luckily, her lymph nodes seem to be normal, however the size of the tumor is alarming. She has additional appointments scheduled including an MRI.

As if this diagnosis wasn't enough, she also receieved a gynocology report saying that her pap smear was "abnormal." As of this time, there is no saying what it means. It could be nothing, or it could be something related to the breast cancer or something enitrely on its own.  

At this point, I am extremely overwhelmed with the news, and my feeling of not knowing the future. In a few days I am about to start my second year of college, but at this point, I don't want to do anything but be with my mom. I was inspired by many of the comments on some other blogs, and I'm hoping some of you could shed some insight on how to deal with my own greif so that I can help my mom be strong throughout the process. Thank you. 

KrystalGsoto

I am going through pretty much the exact same thing. i recently found out my mother had small lump in her breast and i made her schedule an app to get it checked out. They first did a mamogram which said she was okay. She still scheduled an app with a breast surgeon only to find out that she too has Invasive Lobular Carcinoma as well we just found out the news today and she has an MRI later this week. I too am extremly overwhelmed, i start college in two weeks, my boyfriends mother also has breast cancer & is currently undergoing chemo. Its so hard to have to go through something like this considering that you & me are young. Just like your mother my mom is very outgoing & healthy too. i was in disbelief when she told me about the lumo. Shes my bestfriend, and deff the most important person that ive got. We have to be strong for our moms, do as much research as we can so that we can be knowledgeable about this situation, just help out whenever and wherever we can. I hope i helped out alittle bit, your not alone & i'll keep you & your mother in my prayers   

stoneriver27

You helped out so much! I hope you have recieved good news since you sent your last message. Latest update for my mom is that it is Stage IIb. She will have to go through surgery and and Chemo. Radiation is a possibility but the doctors aren't sure she'll need it at the stage she is at. The other day she told me over the phone that she was scared about everything that is going to happen in the next few months. I told her that feeling scared is normal, and that everything that is going to happen is ultimately going to help her get better. It's hard to tell your mom something like that when you yourself are scared, but I hope I lifted her spirits in some way. Again, praying for and wishing the best for your and your boyfriend's mothers.