My mom:(

mandapanda

My mom is 54 and has gone down hill quick! She was diagnosed with liver mets about 4 weeks ago and did a round of chemo and then her white blood cell count and platelets were too low and her billirubim was to high for more chemo. Then, her abdomen started to swell, as well as her legs, her eyes have become yellow, and her skin. She has the shakes. Over the weekend all these symptoms got worse. We brought her to the ER. They say her liver is failing and its effecting her kidneys now. So, I guess it's the end. I'm so close with my mom. I have no idea what I will do without her. I have a 3 yr old boy and a 7 week old girl who will miss out on having the best grandma. I'm heartbroken! I can't sleep. I should be at the hospital with her and my dad but I'm breastfeeding. I feel so guilty. I'm afraid to ask how long does she have.

Copper333

I am experiencing the same thing you are. I found out two Saturdays ago that my mom had 3 to 4 weeks. She has faught and faught but her body just can't withstand it anymore.  Her liver has shut down. As they say, the liver is like a tree and her branches have collapsed which is poisoning her.  She has jaundice as well, she has alot of constipation, she is spitting up secretions..it isn't easy. It is a total shock to my family as well as her because we thought we had alot more time. That is not the case. I have a daughter that is nine and a husband. We just took my mom away for the weekend to the property her and my dad worked so hard for just so she could see it one last time. It was a long trip but one she wanted to take. I know the pain you are feeling and I'm even having stress induced symptoms. I took off work to care for her. Right now she can walk and go to the bathroom on her own but that is it. the one thing that does comfort my mom is milk or milk products like vanila ice cream. her taste buds are gone other than on the center of her tongue. Maybe you could pump so that others can help with the kids to allow you to spend time with your mom. As I say, you don't want to be filled with tons of regrets. Your mom understands your situation becaue it is hard with just having babies.  You could also get one of those story books that your mom can leave a story for your children. You can get them at HallMark. Hang in there and know you are not alone.