Daughter's Wedding

barbiecorn

BMX in February of this year - Been crying a lot every since but especially now - my only child is getting married June 16th (my daughter) and I can really cry at the drop of a hat...is it because of my daughter getting married or the BC or a combination of both. How did you handle special days with this BC diagnosis???  I am so weepy and I am on antidepressants (don't think they are working).  (((hugs))) I need some kind of encouragement from my sisters!!!

slousha

Hi barbiecorn,

My son was getting married July/2010, I was after surgery, chemo, having rads and Herceptin, Fragmin injections every day. But I have done! With a cute wig, well dressed, pain killer tablet every four hours, i was taking part in all ceremonies and danced till small hours! I was grateful and happy to live through this significant event!

You should just immagine your non-recurrent events from bright site and be happy to take part in it!

Best wishes!

Usha

Sorry,English isn't my native language:

Joanne58

First,  a warm congratulations on your daughter's wedding.  I have 3 married children and well remember the tears and emotional pre-wedding stuff, so I think it's a combination of both (answering your question). 

Usha (post above) is a great example of making the very best of this special event, being grateful for the chance to witness her son's wedding and enjoying every minute (with the help of pretty clothes and meds, of course!).  I have faith in you--your daughter's wedding will be lovely and more meaningful to you because of BC.  I find that everyone and everything in my life has taken on more meaning since my dx and I cherish relationships more than ever. 

Blessings of health and happiness to you and your whole family!  And have fun being the BEST mother-in-law a groom could ever have!

1openheart

barbie....congratulations on your daughter's upcoming wedding.  I was diagnosed last April and had a UMX in June while we were helping plan our only son's wedding in November.  Luckily, we found my DCIS before it had become invasive, so a UMX and tamoxifen were the only treatment that I needed.  I did not want the focus to be all on me during what should be the happy couple's time, and at times, that was difficult. But, I healed quickly.    I was so torn about what to do about my dress for the wedding.  I had tried on many gowns and had one in mind, but I was hesitant to order it because I did not know how my reconstructed breast would look in a strapless gown, if I would change sizes after surgery, if I would be comfortable in that style post surgery......my brain was on over drive worrying about stupid stuff!  In the end, I ordered the dress that I loved.  I felt beautiful in it (but I did not out shine the beautiful bride!!)  I had the most wonderful time imaginable and the whole weekend was everything we could have ever dreamed it would be for our son. The wedding gave me something to look forward to during the tough times and planning the rehearsal dinner kept me busy during the days I was stuck at home recovering from my surgery.  I missed none of the festivities.  My first real outing was their engagement party.  We had so much to celebrate!

I was pretty weepy too, but I think I would have been drippy with or without the bc....it IS an emotional, happy time.  In the end, I was living in such a space of gratitude for my family, my new family, my health and well being.  Let the emotions come. They are real. Good luck and try to remember to be in the present moment....if you are, then you will not be worrying about what may or may not happen, you will be living your present life to the fullest possible extent.  Take a deep breath and feel the love and joy.

barbiecorn

Thank you ladies for your support - I needed this encouragement today......((((hugs)))) to my sisters!!!!