Mother's Day - but not a mother

christina0001

I normally get a little edgy on Mother's Day, for the simple fact that people will wish me a happy mother's day (every year!), but I don't have kids. I'd like to have children, but it hasn't happened, and now with all this cancer stuff, I am giving up on ever having biological children, and who knows if I will ever have the opportunity to have children at all. I know people mean well, but why on earth would you wish a woman happy mother's day if she does not have children? It really hurts me. Happened three times today when taking my MIL out, all by people who know I do not have children...it makes me want to cry. Does anyone else out there feel this way?

exbrnxgrl

I am so sorry. I can't say I know your pain but can imagine what it might be like. As I read your post, I thought the Mother's Day wishes came from strangers, perhaps a server in a restaurant. How thoughtless of those who know you to to say that. I would cry too. Caryn

Stormynyte

I'm so sorry. Sending you hugs and hoping the rest of your day goes better.

christina0001

Thanks for the support ladies.

radioactivegirl

I totally get it Christina!!!  totally!!!  Before my diagnosis I was trying to get pregnant for the last 3.5 years.  In addition my mother passed away 5 years ago, so the last 5 years have been hard to deal with Mother's day.  This year has been especially hard since I am also looking at possibly never having kids . . . I'm 38, just diagnosed and still have to do chemo, surgery and possibly Tamoxifen (i'm only weakly ER positive), and I'm running out of time.  You are not alone!  I managed to avoid Mother's day for the most part this year, but one guy in a store said it to me . . .twice.  But having people who know your story tell it to you is much more painful,  ((HUGS))

christina0001

Wow, that is rough. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother, and for all you have been through. I appreciate the support, nice to know I'm not alone in this.