Don´t know how to help my Sister..

beth79

Hi Everyone,

 My sister was diagnosed for the second time with Breast cancer last January, which was followed by mastectomy and removal of her lymph nodes by doctor´s recommendation just to be on the safe side that it was all gone. On the Oncologists recommendation She started Chemo Last friday 6 weekly sessions. My sister has always been a person 100% devoted to a healthy lifestyle so according to doctors it has probably returned due to stress. After her first incidence she lives in constant movement putting her child in as many activities as possible and dragging everybody into her frenzy.

 After her diagnosis in January she decided to slow down and go back to her meditation roots and sports and healthy eating but just last week as she was about to start her chemo she jumped into the decision of buying a new home, selling the home she is currently leaving in at the same time that she's planning her child's birthday party. We are all feeling so frustrated because even though we want to to support her we have no idea why she is taking all this amazing challenges on right when she needs all her strength to start her chemo.  Only after one round the chemo is really making itself felt and she barely made it through the birthday party... should we follow through with the rest of her plans or have a reality check with her, Since I think she is just trying to make up for the loss of control over her health with all these plans?....

sweetbean

Oof, I don't know what to tell you.  Moving is one of the most stressful things you can do, as is buying and selling a home.  I don't know why anyone would choose to do that as they are starting chemo.  Now she is done with the party,  maybe sit down and see if she still wants to go through with the move?  It might do her good to hear someone say, "You don't have to do this."

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Beth, we're glad you found BCO, and a place to support you while you support your sister!