The other side of the coin

cinnamonsmiles

For anyone that has a major health crisis, things are emotional, stressfull, terrifying, and painful to say the least.

I think sometimes I forget that everyone has different levels of bad things that happen in their life that I know for myself, have never had happen, so just as I didn't "understand" cancer before I got it, I truly can't understand what they are going through.

So when I vent about others' troubles, whether it be miscarraiges, divorce,other health issues, whatever, I think I should try to understand their point of view instead of jumping the thought process and saying to myself, or others..."well, I just had this horrible thing happen.(inferring my situation is worse). What they are going through at the time is horrible for them. It may not be as bad as anything I have gone through, but would I want to have what they having going on? Surely, I don't.

I think everyone is entitled to their crap that happends in their lives. If they are truly disrespectful to me personally, that may be different. But just as I need to vent about  my crap, they have the right to have the same emotions about what they are going through. Do I have the lot cornered on crap? No. But they have the right to talk about and vent what they are going through.

I realize that there is a fine line to this. But I am just thinking that everyone has their own crap they are going through. And at that moment in their life, it may  be the worst thing THEY have ever gone through. I think I need to let them feel what they feel and vent just as I would like others to do for me. Just because I had cancer (and other serious health issues) does not mean I have the market cornered on physical and emotional pain, fear, stress, etc. Like I said, at that moment in their lives it is the BIGGEST, WORST thing that THEY have ever gone through and while I may think that my life is worse, who is it for me to judge them? That may be the worst thing they have gone through.

Maybe I need to have a little more compassion for those that are facing horrendous things themselves and not compare it to MY situation. Just because I have major health issues does not mean that I have the biggest probelms. Other health issues can be just as bad.Would I want someone to minimize my problems by someone who has more? No. But I would like them to be respectful to me just as I would expect of them.