Advice appreciated

vmdi

Hello, I am posting to have some sense of what the future holds for my ex-wife. We have a daughter together who is only 16 and needs her mother for many years to come. My ex-wife, currently 51 years old, was diagnosed with TN about 6 years ago. Her lump was large when it was discovered.  She received adjuvant therapy and radiation, but only had a lumpectomy back then.  Her MRIs had been clear up to the one she had last year and this year she was told she only neded a mammogram.  Unfortunately, a spot was discovered.  I suffered so much 6 years ago and I am anxious about having to face this struggle again.  I personalize situations and I take the worry inside of me.  However, I also want to know what to expect from now on and I am asking for your great knowledge since many of you may have experienced similar situations.  What will likely happen next?  I am not certain what treatment options she has.  I seem to recall that once a drug has been tried that drug will not be successful in controlling the cancer again.  Perhaps, I am mistaken about this.  You ladies are the experts.  I found out about her mammogram result today and I can already feel the anxiety.  I am in need of help.  Thank you.

BikerLee

Hi VMDI - you are so early in the process - take a deep breath... and wait to freak out until you have more data.  Like - is the spot actually cancer? Is the spot something benign? If it is cancer, is the cancer a recurrence or a totally new cancer? 

It's a hard time - indeed.  Please think about not only your daughter, but also your ex-wife.  I don't know what kind of relationship you both have right now, but if you can, try to just be supportive... 

Be gentle with her, your daughter, and yourself!  It's definitely a scary time.

Best wishes,

Lee

bak94

I agree with bikerlee. try not to stress, you don't know what it is yet. But, for me, I had a second breast cancer 9 years after my first one. I was treated with one of the same drugs, as my doc felt the treatment was successful, so I think it depends on the amount of time between cancers. With a new cancer that is not a recurrence, it does not mean the first treatment was unsuccessful, plus there are other chemos to use. Hang in there! It might not be cancer, and if it is there will still be something to fight it!

vmdi

BikerLee and bak94,  Thank you for taking the time to respond and your words of encouragement.  She sees her GP on Wednesday and I'm assuming the MD would have read the mammogran and will request further tests.  I do need to wait until all the tests are in before I start to worry, but this is difficult to do for me because of my personality. Thanks again.

camillegal

Al the advice given is the best.  u really have no idea what's ahead for all  of u and it might be wasted worry. They'll be more tests and u'll find out exactly what's going on and rhen u go from there. just be supportive andfor u'r dgtr too Try not to let u'r worry flow over to u'r dgtr she'll need support not being scared.. 

vmdi

Thank you.  The reading of the mammogram was negative.  I am entirely grateful to God for that good news.  The batle continues.

BikerLee

What a huge relief for you and your family!