My Mom Just diagnosed TN

LADYGIGI

My Mom was just diagnosed  I need help in trying to help her during her treatments emotionally. I am the only one of her children that know and I am respecting her requests at the present time because I realize that it is not my story to tell. She is facing surgery along with radiation and chemo just trying to honor her wishes but at a crossroads, I want to do what is best for my mother but I feel like my siblings need to know . She feels like if she does not tell it will go away. I understand that she is still trying to come to grips with all of this. Please Help!

CntryAngel824

My mom was recently diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer. I have no words of wisdom as I am only beginning this journey with her myself, but there are warm thoughts coming your way.

 Hugs . .

catlover23

I'm so sorry you're going through this...My mom was diagnosed with TN breast cancer 4 years ago...She's undergone surgery, chemos, radiation, etc..  She's still fighting although she is now Stage IV with mets to her lungs. 

One thing or piece of advice I can give is that you must learn to take one day at a time...one day will be overwhelmed and full of medical info, the next something different.  I've learned to live in the moment.  Get through today and tackle tomorrow when it gets here.

Another thing is that we learn so much about our parents in the process.  Respecting their wishes, even when we don't agree, is hard.  And I've seen this happen and continue to happen so many times.  I'm frustrated right now because my parents have yet to get a 2nd opinion because they "trust" their oncologist right now...I don't understand it and I think her onc hasn't been very aggressive, but I'm learning this isn't my decision.  Others on this board have helped me understand that.  It's so hard to see your parents, especiallly mother if you are the daughter, going through this.  

 And learn to ignore what the negative people say.  Lots of doom and gloom stories out there.  Just close your ears when you hear that stuff.  

Hang in there...seems to be the motto that we live by nowadays.