What does/did your MO/RO/BS/PS say that made you want to scream?

financegirl

I began with the most fantastic oncologist and sadly he retired (a real shock b/c he was young to do so) just 7 months later.  The onc always had a way to explain things to me that allowed me to know how serious my situation was but made it seem that it didn't matter and that I'll live forever. 

BUT I can remember my first appt with my breast surgeon after my mastectomy and him saying very matter of factly "you better hold on, because you are in for a long bumpy ride since you are end stage III".   Now the new onc (lets call him Doogie Houser since I probably have shoes older than him) isn't as diplomatic and all of a sudden the surgeon is the kind one.  It's SO weird..  It's like they play good cop/bad cop on any given day.

Yet, now after treatment, the breast surgeon seems to be the more sympathetic one 

elesha

When I was diagnosed, I went to see a BS and she was great.  Then she went on vacation and I had to deal with teh second BS in the practice for scheduling tests, getting results etc.  When I found out that I had lymph node involvement after my MRI, I got really upset, and asked the second BS what my prognosis was etc.  She said - about 30%.  Then I asked her in that case what would it be if I did nothing, no surgery, no chemo.  So, she said it was about 10% chance of survival over 10 years, and then she proceeded telling me how immensly painful it will be to die of breast cancer - she went into every detail.  That was on the phone.  I hung up and seriously, if I didn't have my toddler with me at that time, say if he were visting his grandparents, I would have killed myself right then and there.   

Terryberry23

I wanted to scream at my oncologist at my last appointment for Heceptin.  She made the comment it was nice to see the old me was back with my painted nails and cute clothes.  She said she had been really worried about me.  I wanted to say REALLY????!!!!!! Me too.  When I kept telling you I wasnt eating because nothing tasted good or wasn't able to sleep you all just seemed like it was no big deal.  Thank Goodness I didn't do something drastic while I wasnt myself and yeah you are right I wasnt my nails fell apart and I couldnt paint them and yeah I had no hair and the reason I wasnt wearing my cute clothes was they didnt fit anymore thanks to chemo and plus I needed my sweats and sweatshirts because I was freezing and still am.

 I plan on saying something when I go back next as it was then I was just ready to get the last treatment on the road but would have been nice to have know back then she was worried and heard some good advice from her.   

kimkay10

Sion65 - I also had a bad experience with the BS but I love my Onc and my PS.  They all three work together so I feel that I have to have the BS do the BMX, however the BS keeps saying how serious my disease is and that His job is to keep me from dying.  I believe that this negative talk is not productive.  Ok I got it!  but why does he need to keep telling me these things?  I need to know that my team has decided that there will be a good outcome for me?  Maybe all surgeons are like this because they do the cutting off of breasts and this can't feel too good for them?  I say this because I have interviewed three surgeons and none of these guys were very empathetic or positive.

Wordwrangler

I love my onc but 3 months after chemo and I was done with rads, He sai something that really stuck with me and pissed me off at the same time, " just go live and take your tamoxifen." How was suppose to move on from 2 surgeries, 6 rounds taxotere/cytoxan, and 35 rounds of rads. I finished chemo June 31,2011 I'm still trying to live after cancer treatment.