blocking a forum

leggo

Since so many people are asking for technical changes, while you're at it, may I ask for the ability to block a forum please? Mods, check back and you'll see I never ask for anything (except the one time I had a technical problem). I really want this. I know it's not easy, but if we already have the "ignore" feature for members, can't it be easily extended to include a forum?

Moderators

Hi Gracie,

This is already on our "to-do" list with the next tech upgrade. Thanks for the suggestion!

--The Mods

leggo

Thank you!

jenlee

gracie1, what a wonderful idea!

leggo

One more thing....and maybe add a Stage IV forum for those of us who are Stage IV and don't give a rat's behind what stage anyone is. Normally I can find what I need on another mets board, but just in case, I would still like the option to post my questions on this one....it's bigger. I'm really not trying to be snarky....just want a safe place to ask my questions and keep up with people I care about.

leggo

Mods, sorry by the way. I did not mean to come across as so angry in my above post. Just reached my "patience" limit and lost it (on another thread, too).  I really would like to see another forum for metsters, though. I wouldn't touch the current one with a ten-foot pole.

exbrnxgrl

Gracie1,

Ouch! I can only speak for myself but I do care about others at different stages, having once been a lower stage myself. As for stage IV, well since I began this journey less than a year ago and took the express train to stage IV, this is truly a situation where you have to understand what it's like to walk in my shoes. Wish that myself and all the others in stage IV didn't have to. As coolbreeze said, it's not who posts but what. Incidentally, being stage IV does not always bring out the best in people. No bc does, but stage IV really changes your perspective.

With respect and kindness, Caryn

leggo

I'm Stage IV myself Caryn. I'm sure you don't want to get into who's worse off, your or me. I completely understand....and then some. I do know how to read and I did read that it's not about who, but how. That's exactly why I mentioned it's a public forum and you can change the board until the cows come home; someone (or many) are going to make insensitive remarks...nothing you can do about it but ignore and move on....or in the case of what's going on now; bring it up again and again ad nauseum. If my post sounded disrespectful to you personally, I apologize, but I take back nothing I've said. I'm angry, that as a Stage IV, I've been driven off the forum because of the never-ending saga. I don't know if we see eye to eye, but for what it's worth I care about all the women on this board just like you do. What bugs me is that now I've been reduced to sending pm's when I want to wish someone well or send condolences/flowers/cards.

Edited for clarity.

exbrnxgrl

Gracie1,

Regardless of stage, what would lead you to believe that I'm the type of person who ever debates who's worse off? Pardon my language, but pissing contests are not my thing. I assume nothing about another person's circumstances unless and until someone tells me. As for me, although endless debate can become overwrought, I value the support I've gotten here too much to worry about it. Things will eventually work themselves out.

Respectfully, Caryn

leggo

This is what lead me to believe that. My apologies for misinterpreting it.

"this is truly a situation where you have to understand what it's like to walk in my shoes".

exbrnxgrl

That was a general and very broad statement. Certainly not directed at you because I know nothing of your circumstances. Well, now I know a little bit. Apology accepted.

Caryn

leggo

Thank you Caryn. I appreciate that.

angelsister

Gracie its made me sad to see so many people upset about these issues. At least five people have clearly had their feelings hurt over the past few days. As you said NO ONE can plan or moderate for insensitive comments. And those can be from people of any age or stage. As Exbrnxgirl states bc of any stage is a pain in the ass that does not always make for patient and sensitive respones to hot topics. I hope you can get a forum blocked so you can get the support you need in a calm atmosphere soon and exbrnxgrl, i hope you continue to be the caring and supportive poster you are whilst being protected from inane comments that are born out of fear and ignorance (of the issues you're dealing with) peace and love xxxx there's room for all

leggo

I deleted my initial post after thinking about it a while. I really don't want to block a forum. Removing it from "active topics" is a much better idea. I want to keep up with some of the women who keep me going. I should have counted to ten first instead of posting while I was angry. Sorry ladies; sorry mods.

1Athena1

gracie1, no apology is needed. Hugs to you! I'm just glad to see you posting, period.

Moderators

We're all counting down to May 8 with you! There is customization as part of the new features, so everyone will have more control over what they see automatically.

Your Mods

1Athena1

Nancy, I can't wait either. I won't have to read responses to OPs in which respondents think it should all be about them and their feelings.....they think they are being strong and honest but they are really being whiney, self-centered and moody.

Some of the posts we read today seen to go like this:

OP: "I am unhappy about the way my house was painted - it's in a red hue and I don't like it."

Some respondents: "Hey, get over it. I love my red house. You just hurt my feelings!! Change you mind, change you attitude. Really!"

(Only a slight exaggeration).

Let the countdown begin.

Oh Mods, but I have a question: I hope the customization will make it unnecessary to take thread off the Active Topics list?

1Athena1

And Nancy, we even have the same larynx -grrr's the word. :-)

Hope you are having an otherwise good day.