I'm 24 years old, recently lost my Mom to Stage 4 breast cancer

Caitlin515

My Mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 breast cancer when she was 54, and passed away March 3rd 2011.  She was first diagnosed with secondary bone cancer, which led doctors to search for cancer in her body that could have caused the bone cancer.  She had a mammogram done about 5months before she was diagnosed with bone cancer....the doctors found a spot on her breast, and it was already stage 4 breast cancer.  She was so positive throughout her entire fight.  I lost my hero, my best friend. It is coming up on her year anniversary and I am so emotional.  I'm 24years old and getting married soon.  I'm dreading that day becuase my Mom will not be there with me.  Everyday is a struggle for me now because I cant stop thinking of her. I miss her so much. 

LisaMomOfFour

Oh, Caitlin... I'm so sorry for your loss.  While I'm on here becauseoo I have BC, I lost mother to lung cancer ten years ago when I was 39.  Broke my heart and I still miss her everyday.  In time you'll find ways to enjoy your memories of her... while she did see me get married, she didn't get to know any of my children... we talk about her a lot to the kids and they sort of know her through those memories.

Is there a cancer wellness center in your area?  They have a lot of resources to help with the grieving process, and find support.

It's hard to believe but it does get easier with time.  Hugs.  

angelsister

I'm so sorry for your pain caitlin515, your mom will be with you on your wedding day, in your heart x i hope you feel her there smiling with pride at her beloved daughter. I had a little photo of my dad tucked onto my bouquet when i got married and it helped ( a bit). My sister's disease was similar to your mom's. Ive only had to cope for a month so far without her and it does feel overwhelming at times. Very best wishes to you and congratulations on your upcoming wedding x

hydeskate

I now how you feel Imy mom was dx with Ovarian cancer @ 48, she died  Feb 3 2006 two months after her 53 birthday, becasue the Cancer Hospital was 30 minutes from my apartment she lived with me for the last six months of 2005 and spent the last two months at home with my sister who took a leave of absence from work and shortly after I too help my sister.   Like your mom she was upbeat,full of life which is way the rest of the family was shocked with her rapid decline and death following her favoite holiday, I was 26 when she passed.

It will slowly get easier but you will always think about her when you pass a picture or taliking about something.