My mom diagnosed.

canuk

Hi everyone,

I am hoping to connect with others out there going through the same.

My Mom was diagnosed this week. They caught it early and I believe it is small (1.8cm). 

I know in my heart she will be ok, she is one of the strongest people I know. Then, my brain takes over and I start to panic.

She meets with the surgeron this week and they will discuss her options.

We are all hopeful that we will be able to keep our vacation plans in March. But, who knows?

Ever since I was a kid there were two things that I have always thought would be the worst to live with. Going to prison by mistake (lol seriously) and cancer. Now that it is so close, I am quite terrified. She is the one going through it, not me. I should be there for her. She is very positive and strong. Keeps telling me not to worry about her and keep a smile on my face.

I feel better today, after finally finding the courage to talk to people and start my research.

Blessings to all of you.

  

cycle-path

Hi canuk. The first think you should know is that not all cancer is created equal. Many, many people get cancer, have it treated, and go on to live normal long lives. Sometimes the treatment is a (rhymes with witch), but cancer isn't necessarily a life-shortening event. 

If your mom isn't worried, she may already know that hers is pretty easily treatable. Her advice to you not to worry is good.  

canuk

Thanks cycle-path - you are most correct. Always good to hear these things from someone else.

shaah2468

Hi and sorry to hear about your mom.  My cancer was caught early and also a small lump and that was over 20 years ago.  Unfortunately I had recurrances but I am still here fighting fit and plan to keep on fighting for some time yet.  Stay positive and all the best.

canuk

Thank you ... and all the best to you as well. 

Loveshermother

Hi so sorry to hear about your mom.

 My mom was diagnosed in 7/2009. She has a partial mx and went threw chemo. At the time she was she was 74 years old. She has lots of other medical problems along with BC. To date she is doing very good. She is going for a Ct/Bone scan tomorrow. Just her reg. check ups. I know the state of panic you are having. Once you get where things are going and you see how well she is doing hopefully things will get easier for you as well. I'm the care giver for my mom. I go to every dr. appt and get all copies of scans and blood work. Stay with BC. org. The ladies here are so supportive. I have learned so much from so many of them.

My best to you and your mom. I hope you find peace soon.

Penny

lovemyfamilysomuch

Good luck canuk!  Your feelings are so natural!  We are here to help you in any way we can.  In love and support xo

canuk

Thank you all, what an amazing group of women. I am in awe of the support from people I have never met.

My Mom and I (and my Dad). Had some great conversations over the weekend. They are both extremely positive and I am feeling so much better.  The onset was just so frightening ... now that I've had a chance to meditate on everything, the world is feeling much lighter. 

We are all very close. I am an only child and I have always been very attached to my Mom. We have always been very connected energetically. The separation from their Moms that most people go through in their 20's did not start to happen for me until the last couple of years. (I am 39 she is 72). Better late than never I suppose.

We live three hours apart and she was visitng a couple of weeks ago. I had a huge emotional reaction when I saw her. I could not identify the emotion. When I went to see my naturo path that week I told her about my experience. We both came to the conclusion that it was my reaction to the realization that I have become my own person and I can still love my Mom without having to be the same person that she is. My naturo said she thought it was good that I was able to identify the situation. As Mom and I are connected I could have been easily picking up on something going on with her. I thought of this the other day, and now I wonder if I knew. I guess I will never know for sure. 

Mothers and Daughters and the connection they share is like nothing else. 

It is looking good for our vacation in March, We will know more about her treatment this week. I hope to be able to share the special time with them.

Thanks again everyone for listening.

♥ canuk

LADYGIGI

Hi Canuk sorry to hear about your Mom. My mom was just diagnosed as well so I can relate to your feelings. She has stage 1 TNBC  not sure if the lymph nodes are affected till surgery. She is 83 and i am the only one of her children that she has told. Struggling with her wishes and this pressure of my siblings not knowing. Very much aware that it is not my story to tell. Stay strong  and Pray. I  found this forum  by chance. i think the best thing we can do is be the best daughters for are wonderful Moms.