How can I block a thread?

pupmom

Thanks!

Racy

what do you mean by block? Do you mean stop people reading or posting? Or do you mean delete?

pupmom

I mean not seeing it. There's a popular thread by an angel that is very painful, for me, to keep seeing. Maybe I can't do this though.

bcincolorado

When you are in the thread, at the top of it there is a button that will remove it from your favorites. 

pupmom

I've done that. I thought that I might be able to block seeing it on  Active Topics. On another discussion website, not about bc,  I can do that. Looks like I can't here. That's ok. I can deal.

pupmom

Thanks Nancy. Nothing against the poster or post. I'm just reacting to somebody passing.

Moderators

yorkiemom, thank you for the suggestion! This isn't something members can do now, but we'll send it along to the development team, to see if it could possibly be added in a future update.

Judith and the Mods

1Athena1

Yes, this would be a useful feature.

kathleen1966

I think it is a good idea.  I have considered leaving the boards as I tend to wallow in gloom.  It is hard for me to stay off of here and sometimes I don't feel it is helping me at all. if I could hide certain threads, this may be a very good thing for me and for others....

AlaskaAngel

I think it is a good idea also -- thanks for maintaining a civil environment without favoring one position or the other, where the option can be made available to each individual person to choose which threads to block out for themselves.

AlaskaAngel

leggo

Perhaps it's just me, but I'm finding this site harder and harder to navigate once forums and topics descend into "crazy". Locking the threads bugs me (and maybe only me). I use the active topics for navigation. I do however agree with yorkiemom. This is once instance I find it completely warranted to lock down a thread, but that's the only reason. Leave the posts up for relatively intelligient women to make up their own minds and use the "ignore" function if they choose and use your discretion to delete the ones that are mean and break the board rules. I am very sorry to complain about this issue, because I totally understand where you (moderators) are coming from, but I want COMPLETE access to the alternative forum. It has always been a thorn in so many sides, but I rely on it....every day.

pupmom

Nancy, you're right. I keep seeing the thread despite having the person on ignore. 

pupmom

Nancy, yes, that helps.  Thanks mods!  

Edit: Still seems to be on the Active Forum.  

1Athena1

Mods, any word on this?

Moderators

Hi again. The developers are working on several improvements to the site, and this is on the list of things we'd like to see changed to make the forums more customized for members. We don't have a completion date, but we'll keep everyone posted!

Judith and the Mods

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Miles2Go

Dear Moderators,  Impossible to please everyone, to tweek a web site into a "one size fits all" for unending preferences ~  A bit like watching television...if you don't like the station change it.  If you don't like seeing something, go to something you prefer.  I see street signs with the first name of my deceased son somewhere and I simply drive an alternate route.  Avoidance behaviour can be a good thing .   As a nation I think we need to stop feeling we are entitled to thinking somebody else is responsible for our pain, and take responsibility for our own choices.  Wishing everyone a happy Valentine's Day.  Namaste, CMG

1Athena1

Thanks Mods!

leggo

Miles2Go, I just want to commend you on your post. So very well said and I am so sorry you lost your son. It is so very easy to ignore threads and people you don't like here; changing the channel is such a great analogy. More and more, though, I find posts getting personal and the mods have been doing a great job lately keeping that in check.

(Hopefully, they won't have to do the same to me, if and when I get an answer to one of my posts!)

determined3

mods, i think that this is a great request...just wanted to chime in. sometimes ppl log on to find support, esp. when feeling venerable or in a fragile state. i guess i am speaking from experience.  i guess you can "change the channel", but that does not negate what you have seen....you can't "unring" a bell.  good post......whoever started. i can't imagine the number of ppl who have thought about this topic, but never though of it as a possibility. thanks. and the only reason i posted is b/c i wanted to show support for this request and not to cause any problems with anyone. i've been watching this thread and i too am hoping for this change.

thanks and best wishes for all of us.

Beesie

I think that having the ability to block out a thread so that you don't ever see it would be great. But I agree too with Miles2Go - there is simply no way that this board can accommodate everyone's preferences. And determined3, what you wrote also struck a cord with me - so many of the newbies who come here are so vulnerable and often I think we forget that and can be a bit too harsh in our responses. BCO.org have a list of board 'rules' but maybe we also need a list of board etiquette.  

• If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything.
• If someone's decision is different than yours, don't tell them that their decision is wrong. It might be wrong for you but that doesn't mean it's wrong for them.
• If someone says "I only want to hear from women who have done this treatment".... or "who have had this experience".... or "who have this type of diagnosis" and if you are not one of those women, be respectful and don't respond. 
• Always remember that everyone's experience with BC - both physically and emotionally - is different.  
• Share your opinions and share your experiences but don't try to exert influence over anyone else's opinions or treatment decisions.  You can't tell someone how they should feel and you shouldn't tell someone what surgery or treatment they should undergo.  
• When someone asks about treatment options, share your knowledge and share your experience but always refer her back to her doctors.  
• If you post about your experiences or state your opinion and it resonates with someone, that great.  If it doesn't, accept that and move on.
• Everyone's feelings and emotional reactions are legitimate. If someone expresses their feelings or shares their emotions, support them.  If you don't share their feelings or emotions and feel that you can't support them, don't say anything.   There's not much worse than being told that your feelings are wrong. 
• If you inadvertently offend someone, apologize.  Even if they misinterpreted what you said, apologize.  
• We are all entitled to our own opinions....however we are not entitled to our own facts.  If you choose to state facts about breast cancer or BC treatment and you are corrected on your facts, don't get offended but take it as new learning. 
• Be empathetic.  Be kind.  Be respectful.  Especially when you are disagreeing.

Agree or disagree?  Others to add?

Kadia

^^^^^^^^^^ Those are great guidelines for the board...and for life!

Marple

Yorkie, great suggestion.  I have a similar problem to yours.

Marple

Bessie, great post.

Moderators

Just asking our tech team again 

Moderators

Thanks! Our wonderful tech team has it on the (mighty-long) list of features to add. 

Also, I sent them this link to follow.

Best,

Your Mods

1Athena1

Thanks mods. If there were one "banner" thought I wish could be expressed in ALL forums it would be something like this:

PLEASE REFRAIN FROM GIVING MEDICAL ADVICE - THIS IS NOT A PROFESSIONAL BOARD. THESE FORUMS ARE NOT AND CANNOT BE POLICED FOR ACCURACY. POSTERS SHOULD NOT TELL PEOPLE WHAT A TREATMENT WILL DO OR PRESSURE ANYONE FOR OR AGAINST A GIVEN TREATMENT.

if ppeople could follow that, it would be great. If we could STOP telling each other which treatment to try, what SEs to expect and whether or not they "should" or should not take any treatment.

Also, if someone says "my doctor said....." people should REFRAIN from criticizing a doctor or saying he or she is wrong, a quack, etc... We weren't there, we don't know exactly what happened.

Or maybe the banner should just read: THIS IS BREAST CANCER, THERE'S NO KNOWN CURE - DON'T PRETEND YOU HAVE THE ANSWERS. :-)

eta: 

Finally, if someone is advised by their doctor to stop treatment, people shouldn't jump on the doctor. Not everyone wants to stay in treatment forever, and it is not advisable FOR everyone. There is this pressure here to treat 'till you drop. That is a value judgement that should be respected as such and is intensely personal. So a final banner thought:

IF SOMEONE DOESN'T WANT TREATMENT, OR THE DOCTOR RECOMMENDS NO TREATMENT, DO NOT JUDGE HARSHLY!

Sorry, this is off topic. Got carried away by the fact that the mods were reading this. I know there is already language suggesting some of this, but it should be more explicit.

thats-life-

Here here athena, i have been deeply concerned by what you mentioned. if someone's onc warns against further treatment, or a particular treatment, we should not, here, encourage more. I did not know how to word my feelings on that, in amongst a barrage of pro treatment posting.

RE the original post, I sent a pm to yorkiesmum to apologise if i was keeping any thread in active topics that may be causing pain. I re worded my questions on my own thread instead. It wasnt the thread i thought it may be though. I also know that sometimes we stage IV people may want to keep the 'spirit alive', so to speak, of someone we valued who is no longer with us, by keeping their thread going. It is a tough one, and one i dont have an answer for, or a firm opinion on.

pupmom

Now I feel bad. I really want people on the board to celebrate angels they have loved. Don't want you all to stop posting about those dear ones. No way, no how. It was honestly just the one very popular thread from LivingIt, who I did not personally know but who I knew had passed, that was throwing me for a curve. I am pretty fragile still and probably over-reacted. Still, other boards I have been on let people block threads. I just thought if the issue came up again for me or others that might be a good idea.

thats-life-

It is a good idea yorkiesmum! dont feel bad ! I get sad too

pupmom

that's-life, this is all so new to me. I'm used to posting on political and crafts boards as well as facebook. Occasionally I would hear about somebody who had passed. But here it is so common. Nature of the damned beast we deal with.

1Athena1