My Changes

chrissilini

Hello all. Not sure if this is the right place but here goes it. This whole cancer thing, although it has moved quickly for me, has changed me. How could it not? Not just the physical aspect but emotionally and mentally as well. Kind of twisted that it takes the big C to make you look at your life and realize that it's time to start living it. Since my diagnosis I've gained a new perspective on just about everything. I'm trying to be a healthier, more positive person all around. There have been things that I've always wanted to do and I'm not going to put them off anymore. But, I get resistence from family and friends at times. Do any of you find others not willing to accept the 'new' you? It's hard sometimes to make people understand where I'm coming from. As I try to see things differently, they are still the same. I don't expect people around me to change just because I have cancer. I guess I'd just like them to be open to a different perspective. Does any of this make sense?

chrissyb

Chrissilini, it makes perfect sense.  People who have not walked in our shoes do not understand that we have been face to face with our mortality.  Everyone knows that we die.....it is the circle of life.......but no one thinks about it............we do and have........very deeply.  It is because of that we tend to really appreciate all that is around us and enjoy what life brings to a greater degree.  Those on the outside only see the cancer person not the person within and find it hard to accept that you could possibly be that way because of the illness.

Love n hugs.  Chrissy

Susie123

I agree with chrissyb. She said it perfectly. When I was first diagnosed I thought my life was over, I couldn't even see making plans to plant my flowers in the spring because I didn't know if I would still be alive then. That is a major wake up call for us. We now know to live each day to the fullest because those days can be taken away in an instant. Unless you've been through it, you can't possibly understand. I don't sweat the small stuff anymore, try new experiences, am in a less stressful job, and travel as much as I can. That's the positive "side effect" of cancer!

Susie