Need advice for my grandma

sanbar8771

Hello,

 I am not sure where to post this but I need some advice. My husbands grandma had breast cancer stage 2, 30 years ago. She had a MX and radiation. I think about 10 or so years later she had ovarian cancer. They gave her radiation again in some form of bebe in the abdomen. She is now 82 years old and was recently hospitalized for a pain in her back. Pretty much she cant walk. The doctors did a bunch of tests and she has a tumor in the bone in her spine. She also has 2 fractured bones in the spine as well. The doctors want her to do a biopsy to rule out bone mets but she does not want to go through the surgery. She just wants to try and heal from the fracture and try and walk again just to finish out her life. Maybe this is a dumb question but would it benefit her at all to go through the biopsy just to find out that she has mets (or not mets)? She has already said she does not want to go through any more radiation or chemo but she wants to try and walk again. At her age, is there a chance she can walk again if it is not bone mets? Or if its bone mets, can she get treatment where her quality of life is still good?  Thanks for listening.

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Julie

ma111

The most important thing is what she stated that she wants. No more radiation or surgery, so doing a bx would not be called for. It would only cause pain. bone bx hurts.

I know you love her because you came here seeking advise. You don't want to she her die, she doesn't want to either, however it is part of the life cycle that we must accept sometimes. It is very hard to accept. I am not saying that she is dying, please don't miss interrupt. AT her age fx vetebral bodies in the spine don't always mean cancer, but with her history it might be.

I will say a special prayer for you and all the family.

sanbar8771

Thank you for responding. Yes, we are accepting her wishes. we do not want her to go through any more pain than she already has. It is just tough. Thank you for your advice and prayer. Take Care.

diana50

your husbands grandma knows what she wants to do.  it is hard for people who love their peeps and want to "do the right thing"  it really sounds like she has a handle on the situation. prayers.  it is hard.