Pelvis bone cancer

Debke33

I have been cancer free for almost 3 years and I fell down my steps had a MRI and my primary care doctor thinks my cancer is back in my pelvic bone and the tumor is 3cm.  I am so scared I can't think straight.  I had triple negative BC and I would like someone to help me through this new development. 

starbeauty

Debke... I am not TN... But someone will be along soon that can encourage you... Just sending you cyber hugs....

Debke33

thank you

Naniam

Deb, I'm not TN but I did comment on another post you had as to what to expect when you went to see the oncologist.  I had bone mets - spine and pelvic bones. 

Debke33

I am desperately trying to keep my spirits up and I think I am going to die.  What have you done to make it through this?  When I went through chemo in 2009 it got rid of all of my cancer and in now way i would have thought it would have progressed to my pelvic bone.  I am really upset because if my oncologist would have told me to look for these things i could have caught this before it was 3cm.  My fear is going through chemo again.  I am trying to keep busy and not think about it to much, but it is really hard.  I know i am probably rambling on, but I do not know how to deal with this new diagnosis.

exbrnxgrl

Debke, I am not TN either but within weeks of my bmx and stage 2 diagnosis, a 2cm met was found at the head of my femur. I had no symptoms, so there is no way I could have caught it. Please don't blame yourself and I'm not sure what you mean by being able to catch it before...Bone mets can be managed. This is a scary time but once you have a treatment plan it will allow you to focus on dealing with it. My thoughts are with you.

Caryn

angelsister

You've had a terrible shock and it makes absolute sense that you are confused and frightened. There are lots of ladies here who have had bone mets for a very long time. This diagnosis doesn't mean you are about to die. Once you get a treatment plan agreed you might start to feel more in control. My sister has had chemo and radiation for a bone met in her pelvis and that was over three years ago. You had chemo and? rads before? If you got through those treatments once, you can again. Keep checking in here as people log on at different times and they will offer you support. Much love x

Naniam

Deb, I do so understand how scared you are - so do the others that have responded and those that come after me.  I am new at this mets thing too.  I couldn't believe it - I just was in shock.  I never expected it to happen to me, I had no node involvement. 

As the others have said, this isn't your fault.  My mets is in lots of bone, pelvic is one of them. I also have a spot in my liver and several small lesion in my abdomen.  My lab work was all normal; I had no pain that would suggest I was having a problem.  My oncologist told me they didn't understand why I wasn't having pain.  I share this with you because there is no way you could have known, no way  you would have know to catch this earlier.  Cancer is just one sneaky creature. . 

None of us want to think about treatment again.  I dread the day I have to have the chemo again (remember I'm not TN so am on hormone blockers) the steroids they give with the chemo gives me horrible stomach pains; no one has ever enjoyed chemo.  Think we all understand the fear of having to face that again.  However,  I have read of quite a few women here who have lived a very long time with mets and has had quality of life.  They give us all hope. 

Again, as others have said, you get a plan of action and start moving forward.   All any of us can is to take a step forward each day.  

Hope this helps a little in letting you know you could not have known how to catch this or prevent it.  You did everything right the first time.  In me took 6 years and I thought it was gone too. 

Wishing you all the best