Lost an Old Friend

pupfoster1

Lost an Old Friend

pupfoster1

Ugh, I just found out this fucking disease has taken yet another life.  An old friend of mine whom I hung out with as a teen passed away in September and I hadn't heard till just now.  We had lost touch over the years but reconnected on FB and shared stories now and again.  I hadn't heard from her in a while and just checked her page.  She passed on September 30.  And another lady I know from HS is near the end.  I've been getting her Caring Bridge updates and it doesn't seem too far off.

Although I have come to try and find some comfort in reading about people experiencing NDE (90 Minutes in Heaven is an incredible book), I am so sad for these families.  The girl that passed in September had 2 teenage sons and was divorced and living 3 states away from the Dad whom never participated in their lives.  Her Mom was terminally ill as well, and I have no idea what is going to happen to those young men.  UGH, if I wasn't depressed before, I sure am now.........

Love you all,
Sharon

NancyD

This seems to be all around us these days. My next-door neighbor is in home hospice as of this week. She was a 30+year bc survivor before it came back and metastisized. I've only known her since I moved into my home in April, but she has always been sweet and gracious in our interactions.

My sister is also nearing the end of her life journey with another kind of cancer. She's already outlived her dr's prognosis by a few months, so she's living on borrowed time (borrowed from whom, I wonder?). I think she's just hanging on to make it to her son's MBA graduation next week. After that, I expect she'll decline pretty rapidly. I'm hoping she lasts until after the new year when my new vacation time kicks in so I can make a visit to her.

Cancer sucks. But all of this is just Life.

pupfoster1

(((Hugs))) to you Nancy.

It's never easy, but you are right, this is part of Life. 

Seize the day everyone!

Sharon

thefuzzylemon

Sharon...this sucks so bad. I'm sorry...all the time because of what this fing disease does to us...and our co-survivors.

I'm interested in that book...

Octobergirl

Sharon, Condolences to you and to your friend's sons. It seems cancer is epidemic now and is affecting so so many young lives. I'm looking out at winter's barren trees and gray skies...it's too much.



Nancy, You are in my thoughts as you anticipate the deaths of your sister and neighbor. I hope you will be able to visit your sister. When I meditate, I will invoke strength for her and courage for you.



October

patty9999

pupfoster1 - Sending hugs your way.  I am so sorry to hear this and that it took a while for you to find out.

NancyD - Hugs your way, too.  I too will include you in my meditation tonight as octobergrace is. You and your sister will be surrounded by good vibes. 

My mom has been metastatic for three years now and far outlived her prognosis at this time.  Although, we know it won't last forever.  So, I know where you are.

Patty

mrsnjband

Sharon,

So sorry to hear you lost your 2 friends.  

Three years ago a friend who had breast cancer when pregnant & beat it only for it to return about 15 years later.  She died Christmas morning.  This was about a year after I found out I had breast cancer and had been NED for less than 2 months.  I took it really hard.

There are no words to truly comfort you, but I understand how you feel. 

Sending love & support. NJ 

Outfield

Sharon and Nancy, 

Hugs to you both.  I feel so angry at this disease every time I hear of another person.   

FireKracker

I hate this friggin disease as much as all of you....my sympathy to you and a big huggggggg.

i would like at this time to ask you to please check out the thread LETS DRAFT A LETTER TO WASHINGTON...please....there is a safety in numbers....this disease has taken way too many lives...its time we took a stand!!!!!!!!!!!

myrtle1

So sorry for your loss, Sharon.  As fantastic as it is to hear survivor stories.....the stories we hear of poor souls who lost the battle really is like a punch in the gut.  I am so sad for their families.  Let's all stay strong & positive in these trying times.  God bless....

myrtle1

Nancy, I am so very sorry for the impending loss of your sister.  There are no words, other than I will hold you & your family close in my prayers....

Anonymous

Sharon,  So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.  I reiminds me of our own mortality.  I look at life so differently now since BC.

Barb

jennyboog

I'm sorry Sharon, I understand what you are saying....I went to get a haircut this pass weekend, my first since my hair started growing out so I was excited.  I sat down in the chair and I began talking to the stylist about what I wanted.  I mentioned this was my first cut since I lost my hair to chemo....she started crying and ran to the bathroom.  She came back after a while and told me her mom had died a couple months ago from BC, stage IV dx 98 and made it 13 years longer than they expected she would.  Needless to say, my excitement left me...there always seems to be those reminders.

pupfoster1

Thanks my friends,

You always seem to know just the right things to say.  I have definitely taken this a lot harder than I expected and am now waiting to hear of another gal I went to HS with who now has hospice coming to the house.  It could be any day.  That along with new back pain I really have been in a dark place.  Went to see my doc today and he seemed pretty reassuring that my back pain is not BC related, recommended some PT (which I'm already going to a great place for a foot problem) which I think I might actually enjoy the treatments.

Sorry about the hair appt Jenny.  Sheesh, it never ends does it?

Love you all!

Sharon

SharonMH

Hi Pupfoster  So sorry to hear about the loss.of your friend.    NancyD prayers to your sister. SharonH