Has anyone started a Dec 2011 group?

naan1004

Did you guys notice my new pic, meet Magic Kim, a new addition to our family.  I went to Petco Sunday after church to buy some fish for our fishtank, since my mom won't let us have a dog, puppy, cat, kitten, rabbit, you get the picture, she doesn't like animals.  They didn't have any fish, but they were having adoption day with 3 adorable dogs and 1 sweet kitten.  I knew the dogs were too much, so I decided to adopt the kitten.  He is a 5 month old Tabby named, "Magic,"  he was so lonely looking and my girls fell in love and I never knew I was a cat person, but here he is, my magical kitty.  Isn't he so cute!  I promised I would keep him away from my mom, so she caved, hahahaha!  I am the ruler of the universe!  My sister-in-law was upset cause she thinks he might get me sick.  I'm going to insist to my Drs that I need him to fight this difficult fight, so everyone at home will be ok with me keeping him.  I hope all works out.  All you cat people out there, its ok to have a cat dring treatment, right?

Mardibra

Welcome Magic!

rachelvk

Magic is so cute! I'm glad you have another supporter - there's nothing like a good pet to help you feel good.

What interesting developments with your friends. Cancer does help us learn so much about the people we consider friends. I'm glad you've rediscovered your friendship with the one, but sorry to hear that you've had such problems with the other. It's your turn to be selfish now, frankly.

naan1004

Hello my sisters, long time no post. If u have FB, PM me cause I post updates there more often. Been so busy with family, treatments, and surgeries. Finally finished my brain radiation last Tues, also got CT on same day to do radiation on spine and appendix, cause they have been most painful. A few hrs after I got home, I get a frantic call from my radiation onc telling me, I don't have a tumor in my appendix, but rather have appendicitis. He told me to go to the nearest ER before it bursts! I went to my local ER, where they confirmed it was indeed appendicitis, so I had an appendectomy using endoscopy, so less scarring and faster recovery.

I was scheduled for port insertion on same week Thurs, but it was too close to appendectomy, so they rescheduled for this week Mon. Tues was scheduled for another CT for lung radiation, cause cough not going away and having shortness of breath after walking only a few steps. So unfair that I have lung cancer when I never smoked, but did inhale lots of second hand smoke. Tried to get a walker with a chair, but don't have Medi-care, so might have to pay cash. Hope I qualify for Medi-care. Been working on applying for disability back to Oct 2011 to now.

Will try to read your posts later. Been really tired lately, but hanging in there.

Mardibra

Naan - the hits just keep on coming for you...appedicitis! Damn!

naan1004

Ok I need to vent! There is this so called friend of mine who lives in Korea and was an exchange student here around the same time I was in college, she is 1 yr older than me and is a 2 time breast cancer survivor. Anyways, she decided it would be a good idea to visit me while I was having rt breast radiation treatment in Sept 2012 to supposedly help me with cooking/housework. She wanted to bring her then 4 yr old son, her motive to send him to pre-school in the states. I knew she didn't know how to cook, but she insisted she even has a cookbook and everything!

Well, as soon as she came with her son, they were on Korea schedule and were up when we were trying to sleep, cooking, talking, eating, ... My girls needed to go to school and mind u I was doing radiation treatment at the time and was very tired! She cooked 1 meal the 3-4 mos she stayed with us. Never did any cleaning, I had to teach her how to clean the damn bathroom mirror, which had so much splatter on it, I'm sure she couldn't even see herself! I also had to teach her how to clean the damn toilet, especially since her son kept leaking on the rug, told her to clean the floor and wash the rug! OMG, she's been married for how long and her son is how old, she doesn't know how to do these basic things. I even had to ask her to at least vacuum my younger daughter's room, where they took over.

I ended up cooking for 2 more people and cleaning for 2 more people, while taking care of my 2 kids and my husband, go figure y I now have stage 4 breast cancer. She had the nerve to tell me after 3 months of intruding in my life that her son has been complaining that my husband and I have not been as nice to him as the beginning. Is she fucking kidding me!

She was planning to go back around Christmas and wanted to return with an additional kid, not her own, but one of the students she was tutoring in English. I warned her having 2 kids is way harder than having 1, especially not her own kid. She didn't heed my warming and I only ok'ed it cause she offered to pay for living expenses. Since I wasn't working I was thankful at first. They ended up using 3x more electricity and water that the amount they paid us wasn't enough, our market bill came out to at least twice too.

This is getting too long. Fast forward, she now lives with her son, the exchange student, and another female adult she asked to come and help her cause without me she can't do anything. She texts me today and has the nerve to ask me where to get Halloween costumes, I flipped out. I gave her a piece of my mind. I told her she doesn't know what I'm going through since she had early stage breast cancers, went through chemo only once, surgery twice and radiation twice. I have stage 4, everything hurts from head to toe, what does she know about how I feel! I'm worried about who will take my girls costume shopping and here she is asking a sick person where to get costumes. She has access to internet, she has a smart phone, she has other friends she can ask, and I'm sure she has ads like all of us do from Party City, ... Y are people so selfish and senseless, I know I'm always giving, but isn't it time I receive and not give for once? So frustrated and hurt!

Mardibra

This s wat I would tell her....



I have stage IV cancer, I'm in active treatment, and I have a family. I cannot take on any more. So, I would appreciate it if you would use your other resources for information, etc. I just cannot handle anymore at this time.



That should do it I would think.

rachelvk

Julie - !!!!!!! Some people really just don't stop to think about others, do they? I'm sorry you've been punished for being so helpful, and I hope they finally get the message. Having BC helped me use the words "No" and "Enough" more easily (though I still have a ways to go....)

naan1004

Just to update all of u, I'm in the hospital cause I have not had a lot if energy, am nauseous, have low appetite, difficulty getting around without shortness of breath and coughing. I came into the ER per my onc and family request. Dr thinks I might have pneumonia. What next?

dougieswife

Hi everyone....

With a very, very, very heavy and sad heart....I just saw where Julie (naan1004) passed away today. I am so sad...just soooo very, very, very sad. We were planning to meet up next year. I just can't believe this at all.

rachelvk

I think I'm out of words. Lori, thanks for spreading the word. She had such a super attitude, even through all the cr@p she was dealing with. I hope all that stress with those 'friends' didn't make things worse. She'll be in my prayers tonight.

Mardibra

Just saw the news on Facebook. I'm beyond sad.

mamabee

I'm so sorry. May Julie rest in peace.