Tnbc grade 3 out of my

Amanda23

Hi all

I was diagnosed in feb with tnbc grade 3 no nodes involved.

Just finished all my treatment (chemo & radioI had 2 lumpectomies)

I'm so worried that it might come back or spread as the doctors

don't no if it went into my bloodstream.

I carn't sleep at night and I'm not eating as well as I was. I av 2 young

children 2.5 & 15 months I'm so afraid that I won't be around to watch

them grow up. I also have 3 older children to a previous partner

19,16,15 , my 15yr old is autistic with learning difficulties and she

will always live with us I'm scared for her that I might not be here

for her . Please can anybody help

Thankyou x

mags20487

Hi Amanda...I was just diagnosed in Aug this year and am still undergoing chemo and then onto the radiation phase.  I know how you feel..we all feel like that sometimes.  I have just made a pact with myself to live my life now without allowing this thing to end my enjoyment of life NOW! There may come a time when they tell me the fight is over but until then I will live love laugh and enjoy my family and chiildren as well as do the things that make me happy.  Focus on what makes you happy and do that the best you can.  Be the best mother to your children as they need you now.  Stress makes it all worse for sure and the children will feel that.  This is the hardest thing I have ever done and I hate it so much but I have a lot of living left in me.  There are definitely days when I do not want to be cheery and positive and I allow myself that once in a while but then I pick myself back up for my kids and husband and gear up for what comes next.  xoxoxo

Maggie

ScienceGirl

Hello Amanda, 

I sympathize with what you are going through.  The anxiety is hard to handle.  The good news is that you are done with treatment, you made it through!  Now how to resume your life without letting BC take over?  That's the million dollar question.  I wish I had the answer.  My oncologist gave me a Rx for Ativan for anxiety when I was first diagnosed.  I took it a few times so I could sleep - it worked well - now I hardly ever take them, I just like knowing that I have it in case I need it.  I also attend a support group which might be something for you to consider.

 My 19 year old is autistic, he was very upset with me losing my hair.  Since diagnosis, we have made some provisions for him, like setting up the special needs trust and getting guardianship done.  Doing these things has eased some of my fears for his adult life. 

Good Luck with everything, take joy in the present, that's all any of us really has anyways. 

voraciousreader

Amanda...glad you found this thread.  Just want you to know that some sisters also responded to you on the other thread that you started....

Amanda23

Thankyou both for your positive comment I will take onboard what you have said and

I am going to see about some counciling and support group sounds what I need. Thankyou

again and takecare xx

star1dog

Hello ladies... I am a newbie to this site and the whole triple negative breast cancer "world". I found my lump mid-August, had a lumpectomy, sentinel lymphnode biopsy...and BAM! Was told not only did I have breast cancer but triple negative breast cancer! What r u saying I say to the docs...sounded like a death sentence to me and my husband. I did too much research on the Internet and had to stop.... I was pretty pissed off when I heard the diagnosis as I thought I was pretty healthy, exercised, ate no red meat, etc. I have had my sixth treatment out of twelve of my first chemotherapy drug. It is hard to go thru the days and not have cancer on my mind all the time. I have been very blessed and have not been very sick from the chemotherapy. I try to stay positive most days but really hate it when I run into someone and they are aware of your situation and look at you like "I hope she doesn't die"!



Stage IIb T1N2 M0 TNBC

Luah

star1dog: Sorry you're dealing with BC, but glad you found us here. I'm willing to bet that at some point most women who get the TN diagnosis have felt what you are feeling now. While there is lots of scary stuff on the Internet about TN (much of it dated), you might find this to be a helpful site, I know I did:   http://hormonenegative.blogspot.com/

Remember that most women with TN do survive it - and don't have a recurrence. Know that chemo usually works especially well on TN. Take comfort in the fact that you are doing all that you can to eradicate the beast and live a long and healthy life. If, long-term, you exercise, eat well and limit fat in your diet ... studies show TNs can reduce their risk of recurrence significantly. And be assured that time heals and anxiety lessens.