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melalee01

Hello Everyone,

I have been having the hardest time since my mom has been diagnosed. I currently live in Spain while my mother lives in the states and since I have known about her diagnosis (Stage2 BC), I have been struggling to find a way to help her in the long run. I did a surprise visit for her with my two small children so it was a great moment for her. However, she is still waiting for a confirmation on her surgery. At this point, I am just waiting for her to call to let me know so I can help her during the post surgery time. The thing that makes this whole situation so stressful is that my mother has noone to take care of her. My father is sickly and my brother is as well. So, I have been placed in one of the hardest positions of my life. My husband is supportive but, I feel a bit stuck because he does not believe it is  agood idea for me to take my kids with me. Though he has reasons, he just does not get my point of view of how hard a full time mom would have it to say bye to her kids even for just 2 or 3 weeks. The whole situation becomes even more difficult because he is insisting that I start a moving transition (for one year) with my kids by myself to the states since he is unable to come in order to take care of my mom. I feel as if I am under so much pressure from both ends and just so stressed out! I was wondering if any of you ladies were aware of any home care companies that might work for her? Or any other suggestions..I hate taking such an option but being away from kids in terms of countries and bodies of water is not really calming to me. Granted that I do believe my husband is capable of taking care of the kids but he is also facing a dilemma where he has to work and would have to obtain other methods of childcare etc...my kids are very young (3 and 1 year old). I am just so torn right now....and check me too! If you all think I am overreacting let me know...my emotions are just all over the place. I feel a huge struggle between motherhood and daughterhood right now. I love my mother so much! Thank you for reading this...

KTJ21

I'm so sorry, melalee.  I don't have any sage advice to offer, but I know someone on these boards does.  So, I'm replying to bump up the message.