I am so scared for my Mom

nicandcal5959

Today, my mom got the results from her biopsy back, and was diagnosed with breast cancer.  They haven't told her much else about it, just that its cancer and they're still trying to determine what type of cancer it is.  I asked her how she felt, and all she said was "numb".  My mom is such a tough woman, and has always been able to stand down any obstacle in her way.  Even knowing that, though, I am so scared for her and what might happen.  If there is anybody at all who knows what me and my family are going through right now, it would be nice to hear from you.  There is nobody that I know who has dealt with breast cancer before, and I don't know what to do.  

bcisnofun

hi nicandcal - I am so sorry your family is going through this.  You've found a good place because we've all been there.  The initial diagnosis.  So scary...I remember too well.  Your mom is lucky to have you.  What most women will say, and I agree - this is the worst part.  Knowing but not knowing details.  Once you find out more about the cancer and plan a treatment and move forward, you will feel better and so will your mom.  There's a great post on the newly diagnosed site that starts something like 29 months out.  Read that.  It's very inspiring.  We're all here for you and for your mom.  She will always find someone who will respond back to a question, or a fear.  She'll find people who are going through what she's going through when she's going through it, and people who have been there before her to let her know what's on the other side of the treatment, or surgery.  I'm sorry you don't know anyone with breast cancer, as being able to talk to someone helps.  Once she starts telling people about her diagnosis, if she feels comfortable doing that, she will find lots of people who have had breast cancer and she never knew.  Friends of friends come out of the woodwork to offer advice, thoughts, support.  Best wishes and lots of hugs. 

Panmars

nicandcal5959, I am so sorry your family is having to face this. At this stage, it is all so shocking, so hard to take in. But like bcisnofun said, this website is a wonderful place for support and information, and in time, when you are armed with more information, and a plan is in place for treatment, it will get better. The women on this website have helped me beyond measure. We will do the same for you and your mom. Best wishes and hugs.