My Mom

anonymice

My Mom died yesterday - I have to make all the funeral arrangements, and I am fatigued and sick from herceptin and still have burns from radiation.

I am so , so, so sad.  

Reminds me of a Sheryl Crow song "No one said this would be easy...but no one said it'd be this hard." 

jennyboog

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, my thoughts and prayers are with you during this time.

LuvRVing

Pamonymous - I am so sorry for your loss, and I can understand how hard this will be for you right at this time, not that there is ever a "good" time.  If you have any family or friends that can help, don't be afraid to ask.  Or if your mom belonged to a church, those parishioners can be a resource. 

And if it's ultimately all up to you, then try to keep things as simple as you can under the circumstances. 

Hugs,

Michelle

mks16

I am so sorry... wishing you strength and courage in the days to come.

Suzanne3131

I am so sorry for your loss.  

SpecialK

I am so sorry to hear this, especially when you have so much to deal with on your own.  Sending you strength and hugs.

anonymice

Thanks so much everyone.  I wrote that in a total moment of shock this morning.  I do have many wonderful family members that will help with any decisions and a lot of support.  I did not get to have a last conversation with her, but I did happen to get there minutes before she passed, and I believe she knew I was there.

It was a really low moment, one of those times when kinds words mean so much, and I appreciate every one of you.  

lovemyfamilysomuch

Pamonymous,

I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear mother.  It is a horrible thing, those of us who have lost our beloved mothers know very well the pain you are going through. xo

FrancesC

Hi Pamonymous I am sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my dad three weeks ago and as I was undergoing chemo I didn't spend time with him when he was in hospital. He left us quickly and I didn't see him before he passed. I miss him and it's hard. So I wish you all the best and let out your emotions and shout and scream or cry if you wish.....you will feel better.

Elizabeth1889

Pamonymous:  Sending you prayers, hugs, and good wishes at this very sad time for you.  We are never ready to lose our mothers, but this time is especially difficult for you.

FrancesC:  Sending you prayers, hugs, and good wishes, too.  Fathers and daughters have such a special bond.  Please be very good to yourself. 

anonymice

Oh Frances I know exactly how you feel.  I was going through mastectomy and then rads when my mom was in the hospital.  I could never see her as often as I wanted.  I'm so sorry for your loss, too.

Thanks Elizabeth and lovemyfamily for your understanding and hopeful words.

 Hugs to all,

Pam 

Joan811

Pam,
I feel your pain.  It is tough to lose a parent - and especially while you may feel especially vulnerable.
Breast cancer brings many losses already, so it is more than difficult to go through this while you are down.  It sounds like you are getting through.  On my mom's last day (I didn't know) I took a break from the hospital and wrote down everything I could remember about her and her illness so I wouldn't have to keep it in my head.  It was safe in my journal.  It helped me a lot because I  knew I could always go back to those feelings if I needed to.
Hugs and thoughts for you and your family.
Joan

anonymice

Thank you Joan.  It's a very hard time and yes, so hard when other things go wrong as well.  But I really appreciate your note and thoughts.

Bren-2007

Pam .. I'm so sorry for your loss.  Sending you love and a hug as you go through this hard time of grief.  I lost my dad to esophageal cancer two years ago .. and I still miss him so much.

Bren

anonymice

Thank you so much, Bren, I can definitely use all the love and hugs I can get...it's amazing how lost it makes you feel to lose a parent.  

boxcars072000

So sorry  (((((Hugs))))

Tatina123

I am so sorry....thinking of you....

BlueCowgirl

So sorry. No words of wisdom, just big hugs and warm thoughts of healing.

anonymice

Thank you all so very much.  I haven't  been back to BCO in a few weeks...sometimes it can be a bit harsh, but others it can be very warm and comforting, as in here.  I appreciate the words of comfort more than I can say.