stuborn hopeless mom...any help or ideas

doloresmc

Hi ladies..

Fist let me tell you, you are all asource of inspiration and admiration for me!.

My mom (64) was diagnosed with left breast cancer in March 2011; she had lumpectomy that showed it was under 1cm  IDC, Grade 3, no node involvement ER+/PR+ HER2- . She had 25 session of radiotherapy and is on tamoxifen, hating it with a passion. 

She had anesthesia awareness during her surgery and ended up traumatized by it..I do believe she focused all her anger, fear, frustration at being diagosed with cancer into that episode and that's her excuse for not getting any follow up testing done. She claims she'd rather not know because she won't be getting any treatment for anything that creeps up from now on. She won't even go in for her blood test. Her mind frame is: whatever it is, is!.

She has COPD as a consecquense of smoking for almost 50 years now. She never really talked about it until after radiotherapy when they told her her lung had suffered a bit of burning. Never mind her lungs were destroyed prior to that!.

At first I had some sympathy for her and her pity party..I am really running out of patience. I want her to choose life but how can I maker her?. It's her choice after all but we will live with the consecquences of that choice as well. 

She doesn't want to get counseling, she doesn't want to be helped in any way. She's made up her mind!!!. *She's done everything she needed to do in this life* (her words)

Anybody went through something like this?.

I'm in the States and she's in Argentina. 

I'm lost really, don't know what to do other than pray cancer won't be coming back or so..any reply is welcome!

Thanks! and have a great day!!!

Dolores