Sister with Stage IV Breast Cancer Being Vague

sjkammer

My sister and best friend was diagnosed in November of 2009 with Stage IV breast cancer. It had already spread to her liver and lung. After 2 rounds of chemo and a masectomy, the results showed that it had spread to her bone too. She has been on Tamoxifin but was basically told that if this didnt work then there wasnt much else they could do. My sister has always been the "bury your head in the sand" kinda girl. She knew for a long time that something wasn't right but figured if she ignored it, it would go away well it didnt. I can't help but wonder if she had gotten it checked right away if she  would be beating the cancer but i can't go down that road. So she had another check up recently, one she has been putting off since March when she was suppose to go get checked, and i don't understand the results. I am wondering if anyone has any insight on this and I am also just needing to vent. She says that the "markers" are down in her liver but up in her lung and hip bone. They are also going to schedule her for a mastectomy on the other breast but according to her, it is preventative. What the hell?! Her cancer has already spread, why would they be taking her other breast as a preventative? She told me she is having the same sort of pain in that breast as she did in the one they took out. I can't help but think that my sister has gone to the sand again. She has told me she is sick of being sick and I get that. She has every right to be angry and disgusted but she has two small children to think about and fight for. I have always had a six sense when it comes to my sister and I have a really bad feeling about things. I am so scared of losing her. She has also started shutting people out of her life and has gotten angry which I know are normal coping mechanisms but its a sign with my sister that things are not good. I wanted to be there for the next mastectomy as I was with the first but she is saying I dont have to be as though its not a big deal. Since her diagnoses, I have tried hard to treat her normally and very rarely ask about the cancer. I know she likes it that way, she hates the pity. It's hard though when you know they are dying. I'm just scared.