My sister

LoveMySis

    Hello...

   My sister Nancy was diagnosed July 12Th this yr. She is Her2 positive grade 3 stage 3. As her main support person I hope no one minds me being here. What a silly thing for me to say to the most understanding people who are going through this fight. I lost my nephew ( her son ) age 31 of Melanoma January 25Th of this same year after a 4yrs, I was hoping maybe a few of you could share through your own experrience some way's I can do best by her. As much as we all want things to remain the same... Thank you everyone for your courage and strength to be here and share a part of you...  Rebbecca...

jpmercy

Hi nancy,

of course you are welcome here on the boards! i am so sorry to hear about your sister. and the year your family has had. it is always so difficult to see a loved one go through any sort of stress or heart ache. i have two older sisters and there love and support meant the world to me, some things that htey did was came with me to chemo, made me fun bag of things to take with me to chemo to keep my spirts up, for example, healthy snacks, magazines, books, my sister surprised me at one of my chemos with a bag of hysterical things from our childhood it was all inside joke type of things so of course i meant alot. my sisters also always cooked dinner for the night of chemo and some of the following days. i also at the time my son was only 8 months old so they helped alot with him and gave my husband lots of love and support to. im guessing possibly she has grandkids? if so they can do lots of fun cute things to show they care, i am actually a school social worker so i have experience working with families going through cancer and other things so feel free to PM me if you would like. i think the key is showing her you care, allow her to cry, cry with her and laugh! hang in there this is all still very new for you and your family, if you are loooking for specific quesions you may want to post this in the stage III or HER2 discussion boards the woman there will be so very helpful, this dicussion board will probably not be that useful for you with questions bc you posted it under micro invasion and most of these woman do not need chemo or her2 medication. take care!

jpmercy

oh im sorry i meant to say hi Rebecca i belive your sister is Nancy

thatsvanity

Hi rebbecca,

Two sisters walking this path is the best. I was my sister's main care taker on her cancer journey and I would not have changed any of it. I love and loved her dearly. I'm happy when sisters help each other. Allow others to help too. I could have asked for more help but I didn't I guess I wanted to protect her. I'm a little older she was 41 I'm 45 . We always included fun in our trips for her treatment. Good wishes on your journey, but I can relate as a care giver there is a great guide book out there I'll find the title and post it for you.

Love Amy

thatsvanity

Hi rebbecca,

I understand your feelings of pain too about your nephews death of melanoma. It is heart wrenching to miss those you love.

Amy