Cancer Survival? Mom was Stage 1

LadyCali

Is my mom gonna live? She had stage 1 breast cancer  and even removed her fallopian tube and ovaries just to be double sure. She is cancer free THANK GOD !   PLEASE  someone tell me is there a possibility for her to live a long and full life ? Im only 16 and can't handle all of this . please tell me the truth

Hauntie

LadyCali - Nobody can predict the future, but at stage 1 the chances are excellent that your mom will live a long and full life.

Have you shared your fears with your mom? Has she told you anything about what her doctors have told her? If not, even though I know it will be hard conversation to have, I suggest you talk to her. Tell her how worried you are. Share the post you've written here with her. This is a lot for a 16 year old to handle. You may feel that you don't want to burden her, but she's your mom. If she knew how worried you are, I'm sure she'd do all she can to reassure you.

I hope this helps calm your fears a little bit. Take care.

chrissyb

Hi Ladycali, take a big deep breath and let it out slowly.  I know you are very concerned about your mom and that is very natural but it sounds like your mom has and is doing everything she possibly can to make sure she is here and well for a lot of years to come.  You don't say how far along she is in her treatment, but from your tone I'm gathering not too long.  Take heart little one, statistically you will be and old woman before you need to say goodbye to your mom.

Love n hugs.  Chrissy

peggy_j

LadyCali, sorry you're going through this. The word cancer is scary, no doubt about it, but things are better than they were 20 years ago.  FWIW, I'm stage 1 and my docs keep saying it's "highly curable" (their words, not mine). But I agree with others that no one can predict the future. BTW, do you have anyone you can  talk to? (you might find it easier to talk to someone besides your mom about your fears). My doc's office even has support groups for caregivers. (you're one). Sometimes it can be harder to be the caregiver than the person going through treatment, so be sure to get the help and support you need.

p.s. I know someone who are diagnosed with breast cancer 30 years ago and aside from her initial treatment, she's had no other issues. So yes, people can live a long, happy life after diagnosis.

justagirl

Ladicali,

You are so smart to do your research and to of found this site.

I do feel what you are going through as my son was also 16 when I was diagnosed and his world fell apart.  He was in his last year of high school and almost didn't graduate.

Now listen: as your Mom's primary general doctor to refer you to a therapist to talk about your concerns if you are not comfortable in talking to the gp or oncologist.  My son didn't see a therapist until a year later and I regret it.  He was anxious and depressed.

From the time of my initial diagnosis, my son knew everthing that was going on, for better or worse.  No secrets.

Stage 1 has a good longevity associated with it.

Unfortunately their are no promises for a long life for anyone. You could be killed in a car accident tomorrow.  The thing I think about breast cancer is it put's one's mortality right in their face.

It's ok to be scared and worried.  It's your Mom.  Love her and enjoy each day and get on with your lives. If you can, talk to your Mom about your fears.  I know, as a Mom, my greatest concern was not my well being but that of my son.

My son is the most important person in my world (sorry husband) and I  am sure you are so very important to your Mom and she would want to know of your concerns.

For many women diagnosed with breast cancer stage 1 they don't have a reoccurrance for the rest of their lives.   Sounds like your Mom has done everything she can to be around for a long while and to play with her someday grandchildren.

faithfulheart

Sweeti,

Your mom caught her cancer very early,  Thank God!!! ! She is going to live a long healthy life!!!!

I know you are scared,  medicine is soooo good today,  and it sounds like she did all the right things! ! You know what , I was dx in stage III,  I have a beautiful daughter too!!  I plan on being old and grey!!  I will keep your mom and you in my prayer's, We moms fight hard for our kids,  just keep loving each other,  thats the best medicine in the world!!!!!!!!!!!! It's going to be OK.

God bless you and your mom, you are such a strong young ladie!!

Big Hugs to you,

stephanie

edwards750

LadyCali...bless your heart you are so young to be taking this on...my son is 21 and he too was scared when I was diagnosed. What you need to remember is breast cancer is not the death sentence it was once thought to be and your mom's breast cancer was caught early and the probability for survival for Stage 1 is very high. I have Stage 2. They have come a long way in the treatment of and the survival of people with breast cancer. I would talk to your mom about your fears. We are all praying for you and your Mom. It will be okay. Bless you...diane

CoolBreeze

The sadest and hardest part of having cancer, for me, is what my children think and will have to go through. 

According to Imaginis, a well-known and respected website about cancer, women who are stage I have almost a 100% five year relative survival rate.   Most women with her stage of cancer will go on to live long lives.  She'll be hugging and playing with your children.

Other women have said there are no guarantees and that's true.  There are no guarantees for any of us.  But, your mom caught her cancer very, very early and she'll be watched closely from now on.  

But, you should still be nice to her.