Advice would be much appreciated :)

danimoocow

Hello, my nane Is dani and I am 15, one of my close friends who is 14's mum has just been diagnosed with breast cancer. She had just lost 3 stone and the doctors said that If she hadn't then it would have taken 5 years to find so I am glad they managed to find it! I am not sure how bad it is but I know she is having a masectomy soon. I am visiting her tommorrow and I was wondering if anybody has any tips on how I can help them both, and support them, I wan to be able to do something for them.



Replies are very much appreciated thank you

Abbey11

Hi Dani,

You're a good friend to want to help!  I think that there's lots you can do; here are some ideas.

First, let your friend and her mom know that you're thinking of them.  Send a card or flowers and let them know that you're sorry that their family is going through this.

 Second, ask what you can do to be helpful after the surgery.  Could your friend stay with you?  Are there younger siblings who need babysitting?  Can you run some errands, pick up groceries, help clean the house?

Third, if your friend's mom will do chemo, she will be tired for quite a while even after she recovers from surgery.  Maybe you and your family can drop off some meals to put in the freezer, so the family doesn't have to worry about cooking.

 Also realize that some people are very private about their cancer treatment.  Your friend's mom may not want non-family members around her house.  If so, don't take offense, just respect her privacy.

Good job being such a good friend! 

danimoocow

Thank you very much!



I have spent a day making her a card, i have avoided using get well soon as I don't think that is the right thing to say so I used thinking of you.



I will make sure i invite her to stay at my house if she needs to, to escape for a while. Luckily there are no other siblings that need looking after!



I will most definatley respect her privacy, but they have always treated me like family so I am hoping they won't mind me around the house!



I will also offer to help in anyway they need me!



Thanks again,



Dani x