INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

Alyson

Evidently my DD is getting heavy snow in Oakville Ontario at this moment. 

We don't even get snow in this part fo the country.

badger

We'd send you some if we could!  That storm probably isn't the one that just went through here, that's on the Eastern seaboard by now.  Did your DD have off work for Family Day yesterday?  And did she do anything fun in the snow?

Alyson

Sorry went to bathroom and changed into nightie - much cooler.

Yes it was Family day, her DH  took DGD to the movies because DD and DGS had a tummy bug. As I said to her, great family day. 

badger

I never like being sick but especially so on a holiday.  At least your SIL got one of the kids out & about.  Hope your DD and DGS feel better soon!

I took a snow day off work yesterday but many people had the day off for President's Day.  That's a made-up federal holiday.  They took Washington's birthday + Lincoln's birthday and combined them.  No mail and the banks were closed.

Alyson

DD said she thinks they made up Family day because you need a holiday in Feb.

anyway why are you not asleep?

badger

A Feb holiday is always nice, made up or not LOL. 

I'm up because I'm wrestling with whether to apply for a new job.  I like where I'm at, I really like my boss, it's fairly low stress, and I make OK money.  But this other opportunity has come up.  It'd be a challenge and more $$ but lots more stress and I understand the boss is a crazy b*tch.  Can't decide...

Enerva

Good morning!!!!

badger

Good morning Enerva!

They say a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.  What if the one bird is a chicken?

And am I the chicken because I'm thinking the extra stress isn't worth the extra money.

Alyson

Sorry but BiL called from Spain on skype so we have been chatting to him. Still watching olympics but must get to bed at some point. DH has to get up and go to work. Me, I am a lady of leisure.

Is it still snowing where you are Enerva?

Anonymous

no, Badger, you're not crazy! More money would be nice BUT is it worth the extra stress to you? If you already know you'll be working for a crazy biyotch, will the new job make up for it? I know happiness is a greater factor, but only you can decide what would make you happy and what's right for you.

Enerva

Hum u have been up all night? its been  snowing here all night. i am having my usual pain upper quadrants lol

what s your plan for today? i ll just go to the post office then to the organic supermarket lol its just too early 

Anonymous

Enerva, loved the photo from your window (pages back?). Taking a rest from all your beautiful needlework?

Alyson

My job was so stressful- I was head of faculty at a very large high school  and had 21 teachers under me;  that I decided there was more to life than money and retired early. It was for me the absolute best thing. I went back to school after taking time off and worked another year. So next month,after five years I will get my state pension. Badger you have to decide what you want for yourself.

This old owl is sleepy

Good night

Anonymous

sweet dreams Aly!

badger

Maddy, my thoughts exactly!  There's something to be said for a secure position where I know the ropes and am a valuable asset.  Current job affords me a great deal of flexibility and I can work at home if the weather is bad.  New job would be a lot of question marks and I'd be on probation again so the crazy boss lady could fire me on a whim.  THEN where would I be?

Alyson, that's excellent advice.  There is way more to life than money. Yes I know I have to decide for myself and I appreciate being able to bounce things off you ladies.  Good night, sleep well!

OK off to the showers for me.  Have a good day everyone!  ♥

Chevyboy

Okay, I just can't resist this.....So you say, "A bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush..... But a hand in the bush is better!"  Now I used to think that was soooooooo funny!  

Badger, it would be soooooo nice to be able to TRY the new position, without commiting yourself... But you know, with even less money, liking what you do and your boss, really means a lot!   You just have to ask yourself "what if I do this, or that".... What is more important.... etc! 

Hi Maddy!  It's nice out right now..... not even light out, but I'm just happy I'm home, and everything going good! 

I have to post this, then "turn the page..."  Ha!

Chevyboy

You guys, what happened to Cammi?  I'll bet she is waiting for me to track her down? 

So anyway, I'm walking so much better, with my walker.....  taking it easy, and trying to just not push it!   And you know, it is so much better, that I did this at my age, instead of when I was younger, like raising the girls, or even when I was working!  

Does age really have anything to do with falling?  I mean tripping?  At least I didn't hit my head this time!  At least I didn't get run over, laying there in the alley, and at least  the dumpster trucks didn't haul me away....Ha!   So it COULD have been worse....  could have been better too, but it is what it is! 

Teka

Today, 4 years on the threads, continue posting & lurking gingerly!

tangandchris

Morning ladies-

I woke up with stomach cramps and just not feeling that great. I'm supposed to work today, thankfully I work from home. Little DD is eating her oatmeal, washed and dressed for preschool and I'm already wiped out.

I need to vent ya'll, so just excuse me for a sec...

I'm really, really hurt right now by my oldest DD, she is 21 and is not doing much of anything to help. This has been going on for awhile, since before my dx. She is using drugs, I know she is at least smoking pot. Not working or going to school, just spending lots of time with her boyfriend and coming home every few days. I've told her repeatedly I need her and when she is here is she is in a foul mood and has little patience with her little sister.

Yesterday she came home and helped a little, but later in the evening her boyfriend showed up and she said they were going to a friends house and she'd be back. Well, she didn't come home last night, no call...or text. I'm angry with her and hurt...its like she doesn't even care.

Soooo....I'm ready to tell her off. I've had it...but I'm also not in a good place to have a family rift going on right now. DH is her step dad, and I know he's had it, but in the hope to keep the peace he doesn't say much.

I just feel like a bad mom, I see and hear about kids stepping up and I wonder where did I go wrong. I know I made mistakes with her, but I just can't believe how she is acting.

Thanks for listening ladies. Sorry to be a downer this morning.

Teka

*Hug*

sas-schatzi

Badger, A boss that is a bitch or bastard, IS NEVER WORTH ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY OR CHALLENGE. I lived that for so many years. Two different jobs. I loved each job. But each day there was an undercurrent of how the bitch or bastard would mess with my life. The common problem with bistard(combo bitch and bastard) is they actively seek to make their employees unhappy. To me that equates to EVIL. Do you want an evil person in your life.

Badger, you are one of the many many kind lovely people on BCO. You wouldn't be with evil people here. How could you consider being with an evil person on a daily basis.

We each by our human nature seek to accomplish. We by nature, package that accomplishment as to how it challenges our abilities. We take things to a higher level, just to see if we can do it. Be damned what it costs. Climb that friggen mountain. That's how humankind advanced throughout history.

Retrospectively, What I would have done is look at the world of work differently. I would have left those jobs with the bistards and find a challenging job with an Angelboss. I've had several of those. What a joy to go to work everyday. In those times it wasn't as if it was work. It was great fun and I learned and learned. A key for me in a job was a continuous stream of learning, with the ability to apply the learning.

I didn't have a mentor that told me the things I'm saying now. I'm not suggesting I'm your mentor. I'm my DS's mentor. We talk frequently about all things, that will improve his life. It's not a do this, do that. It's a Socratic approach. I raise the questions of the pro's and con's. He then concludes what he wants.

If you love your job and boss, what if you looked at your work and reinvented it?

sas-schatzi

Tang, Sorry about the daughter. Have you gotten into counseling yet? I believe allot in counselors. If you click together , they are an immense source of helping to sort things out. I love the privacy of a counselor. You can express everything. Then they are great at developing plans with the pro's and con's of each plan. You can then decide which plan is the best. Sometimes the "best laid plans of mice and men" fail. But it was at least looked at for execution, follow through, and outcome before it's tried.

blondiex46

Tang so sorry about your daughter not saying anything cause it will sound like i am making excuses (like maybe she is scared) just know you are not along although I have 5 children 1 my youngest daughter is the only one that really does anything the twins are 20 and live with me 1 does nothing and the other does more...I can't do alot especially now with this devil...I can't even take care of myself, (last one tomorrow then on to another one)...I have to sit to do the dishes and shoulden't cook cause of the oxygen and get near the stove...so they have to cook for themselves....I don't have people coming to my house with food although I have other kids and a DIL...my friends don't live around me....Hang in there.....

Holeinone

Tang, 

You are not a bad mom, we all can look back at our parenting and wish we would of done some things different.

I was way too sick, emotional to consider counseling during chemo. But my kids @ 27 & 30  were so supportive. 

Hard not to be emotional, and it will get harder as your treatments continue. I would try when she is around to calmly express that this is the challenge of your life, physically & emotionally. Tell her that you wish she was doing something productive, school or job, but since she has chosen to be without direction for the present you need her because of your little one. 

My opinion, take it with a grain of salt, when young people her age, are without a purpose, school or work, they lose their self worth, because they know they are not being productive. She knows in her heart that food, cell phones, clothes cost money and she is letting someone else pay for everything. 

Sas, I think counseling is great, & Tang it might be what you need, but I could not have done that during chemo. 

Enerva

Well i got my book today so ll put away the crochet lol i am so worry about Venezuela, things are getting ugly. 

tangandchris

Counseling would be a great thing, but I'm not up for it at this point...I'm too exhausted. I've urged her to go to counseling, but she isn't following thru. I've tried talking to her, explaining to her that I need her now and she seems to get it...but again she doesn't follow thru. I'm just disappointed at this point. I know she is scared, but I also think she is being selfish and I'm mad at her. She took more time to text me last night about her cat than me! lol

 

Enerva

Tang i am so sorry you are having such a hard time, My poor sister is also having a similar situation but my niece is only 14 and she just has pull away from my sister in a strange way, she is not talking much and she doesn't even interacts with my sister. Basically she comes from school and goes to her room to do homework gets out to eat but does not talk or communicate at all not even to ask how my sister is every day. Its hard but its just the way she is dealing with the fact that her mom may die from this sickness. I am not sure why are childrens acting the way they do now a days. Back when i was born we were so mature and some how we were sensitive. Sending you hugs   

Holeinone

Blondie, hugs....wish things were easier for you. So hard, when we need help just caring for ourselves. 

Are you getting A/C right now?   That is a horrific chemo, I called it legal torture.

Enerva

Blondy sending hugs your way too. 

Wren44

Chevy, Age does have something to do with falling. If you were 30, they would say you slipped on a rock; now they say you're old. Being old does seem to be the answer for everything these days. Wish I could be there when they get old.