Had the bone scan today

D4Hope

Wasn't so terrible. Maybe I am being a big baby but my whole family and a few friends knew I was having this scan days ago and nobody called to wish me luck. My friend called today to see how it went but not even my mom called to say good luck. Maybe they are not supposed to, Oh I don't know I just feel alone sometimes in all this. Am I crazy?

Betterwannabe

No you are not! I didn't tell alot of people my concerns only my husband and his mom and my mom. His mom always told me that she loved me like a daughter now was the time to show... She failed... She knew how worried I was but she didn't even call! One week passed by no call, today I called and she didn't pick up.. imagine if I got some bad news last week she didn't even CARE! So this hard times i had only showed me real faces... So I understand your sadness on the subject... I hope you get good news..

Anjanita

Few remembered to ask me about my appointments either except for a few times.  It does make a person feel alone in the experience. 

And it's a shock the first time you realize that you are actually alone in it all.  Always have been; always will be.  What a thought.  No one can "heal" us but us,  They can help but we all walk alone through our lives and will through our deaths.  With luck we are able to find a few folks who will hold our hands through the tough times.

It was through another life-threatening illness that I learned this lesson and it shocked and scared me.  Over time it has given me more of a sense of responsibility for my own health and emotional well-being.

 But then I haven't been telling many people a lot about it because I think I may become tiresome.  Certainly at first if I had announced each appointment I had it probably would have been a lot of stress on others as well.

 And until it's happened I don't think anyone can really understand what it's like or even all the little things you have to deal with that begin to add up.

Perhaps they think there would be a problem for you if they bring it up too often.  Probably have no idea how they are supposed to be acting if it's a new experience for them too.

Have you thought about asking for a little more comfort from them?  It's okay to tell people important to you that you need some extra support.

 Sending hugs and caring your way.  I understand what you are saying.  Many good people here to hold your hand.

D4Hope

Thanks guys

mymountain

 I don't think they realize the weight these tests carry and that so much depends on the results.  I don't think it is indifference  or not caring, just ignorance.  Can't blame them for that. IMHO, they just don't know the implications of the results of most of the tests we have